Real Relationship Talk

Does it seem like your spouse or partner doesn’t listen to you? Maybe you find yourself wondering how to talk in order that they will listen and understand you. Listening skills are an essential topic of communication within relationships which is why I'm dedicating a new series to how to communicate in conflict called "From Conflict to Connection." Today’s episode will teach you principles and guide you toward a better understanding and improving communication with your partner. I discuss common communication mistakes partners make when communicating and the importance of listening skills. I also offer practical and "pro" tips for better communication. We also explore how to approach sensitive topics, the importance of timing and mood, and how to influence your partner to listen to you when you communicate. Visit realrelationshiptalk.com/193 for the full show notes.   Links Mentioned in This Episode: Get my new Connection Course <—Use Discount Code! “CONNECTION50” (good until 12/1/23.) EP 191 Bids for Connection  Need Help in Conflict? Download my free “Conversation Starters” here!   SUBSCRIBE | SHARE | RATE | COMMENT  To ensure you never miss an episode, be sure to subscribe or follow on Apple Podcasts, Google Play, Spotify, iHeart Radio, or wherever you listen to podcasts. Remember, sharing is caring! Thank you for sharing these episodes with your friends and family via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

The key to receiving your next is to be thankful for what’s now. In this episode, we’re discussing how to live a life of expectation for what’s next and appreciation for what’s now.  Do you find yourself asking why this or why me? Today, I want to challenge you to ask yourself what you could be thankful for in that same moment. I'm overflowing with gratitude to be here with you all, especially after a wonderful Thanksgiving. I hope your hearts, like mine, are brimming with thankfulness. Today, we discuss the power of gratitude and how it shapes our lives, drawing inspiration from the phrase "being thankful.” My focus today is on living with exceptional expectations. We often find ourselves eagerly anticipating the "next" big thing in our lives, always looking forward. While it's great to look forward, I believe the key to truly enjoying and receiving our "next" is to develop an attitude of gratitude. This might sound cliché, but I assure you, it's transformative. Find the full show notes at RealRelationshipTalk.com/192.   Links Mentioned  The Truth Behind Unanswered Prayers  Get Your FREE Conversation Starters Guide for More Heart-toHeart Communication Here.   SUBSCRIBE | SHARE | RATE | COMMENT  To ensure you never miss an episode, be sure to subscribe or follow on Apple Podcasts, Google Play, Spotify, iHeart Radio, or wherever you listen to podcasts. Remember, sharing is caring! Thank you for sharing these episodes with your friends and family via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

We all want attention in our relationships and will do just about anything to get it. Psychologists call this making a bid for connection. If you feel lonely or unheard, this will resonate with you today. We’re emphasizing the importance of communication and attention in relationships to alleviate loneliness and discussing how to make and respond to bids for connection. Feeling disconnected and lonely, even in the presence of others, is not uncommon. Physical proximity doesn't guarantee emotional closeness. To feel close to the one you’re with, both partners need to put in the work to hear what the other partner is not saying.  Key Insights and Solutions:   Recognize Bids for Connection: It’s important to recognize both verbal and nonverbal cues from partners seeking connection. These cues, or "bids," can range from a sigh after a hard day to a subtle gesture for attention. Ignoring these bids can deepen feelings of loneliness and rejection. Respond Appropriately and Timely: It’s best to respond to these bids in the moment, as delayed responses can exacerbate feelings of neglect. Immediate and appropriate reactions, whether it’s empathetic listening or a simple acknowledgment, are huge. This lets your partner know you are actively building connection with them.  Head over to realrelationshiptalk.com/191 for the full show notes. Links Mentioned in this Episode: Need help de-escalating an argument? Get your FREE Guide: Conversation Starters for Heart-to-Heart Communication here.  Sign up for my brand-new "From Conflict to Connection" online course!   SUBSCRIBE | SHARE | RATE | COMMENT  To ensure you never miss an episode, be sure to subscribe or follow on Apple Podcasts, Google Play, Spotify, iHeart Radio, or wherever you listen to podcasts. Remember, sharing is caring! Thank you for sharing these episodes with your friends and family via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Life is crazy sometimes, but we don’t have to be. In the chaotic times we’re living in, it’s possible to live undisturbed. Joining us for Faith Friday is guest host, Kisha Moore, who’s filling in for Dana Che as she continues to battle the flu and laryngitis. Talk about a chaotic time! Kisha emphasizes the importance of developing a calm life amid life’s storms. Kisha has been revisiting the Book of Proverbs, month after month. Today, she shares the wisdom of Proverbs 14:30. Proverbs 14:30: “A peaceful heart leads to a healthy body...”  In today’s contemporary world, where fear, scarcity, and jealousy are prevalent, Kisha encourages us to adopt a mindset different from the world's turmoil and instead focus on cultivating a peaceful and tranquil heart. She reflects on the importance of this mindset in her own life, particularly in dealing with daily challenges and maintaining a sense of peace amidst chaos. For the full show notes, visit https://realrelationshiptalk.com/190   Links Mentioned in this Episode:  Get Your FREE Speak Life Daily Affirmations Audio Here.   SUBSCRIBE | SHARE | RATE | COMMENT  To ensure you never miss an episode, be sure to subscribe or follow on Apple Podcasts, Google Play, Spotify, iHeart Radio, or wherever you listen to podcasts. Remember, sharing is caring! Thank you for sharing these episodes with your friends and family via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Mom guilt. It’s a real thing that nearly all moms feel. I've been there, feeling overwhelmed and out of control due to my parenting fails. Add anger and unmet needs to the equation, and you’ve got a recipe for rage and remorse. Today, we’re explicitly focusing on rage and anger management. Our guest, Elizabeth Andreyevskiy, transparently shares her story and insights, which I believe will be a game-changer for many moms. My personal journey with mom guilt began in the early stages of motherhood and marriage. I found myself unprepared for the challenges of raising kids and my lack of discipline strategies. The result was anger, often spiraling into rage. This journey wasn’t easy, but it made me realize the importance of addressing my unmet needs and learning more productive, loving, and effective parenting strategies. Get the full show notes at https://realrelationshiptalk.com/189. Listener Takeaways: For Singles: If you're a single parent dealing with mom guilt, remember taking time for yourself is not selfish; it's necessary for your mental and emotional well-being.  For Married Couples: Communication with your partner is crucial in managing mom guilt. Discuss your needs, feelings, and strategies for parenting.  For Church Leaders: Recognize the challenges parents in your congregation face, especially around mom guilt. Encourage a culture of grace and understanding, rather than judgment. Links Mentioned in this Episode Take my free "How Connected a Partner Are You" Quiz! Elizabeth Andreyevskiy Special Offer for RRT Listeners  EP: 188 How To Resist Temptation   SUBSCRIBE | SHARE | RATE | COMMENT  To ensure you never miss an episode, be sure to subscribe or follow on Apple Podcasts, Google Play, Spotify, iHeart Radio, or wherever you listen to podcasts. Remember, sharing is caring! Thank you for sharing these episodes with your friends and family via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

How to Resist & Overcome Temptation  Temptation comes knocking on all of our doors. We all face it, and it can be hard to resist regardless of where we are on our faith journey. We’re diving deep into a topic that resonates with all of us: how to overcome temptation.  Let's acknowledge it—the temptation is universal. It doesn't discriminate based on how spiritual or morally upright you are. Even Jesus faced temptation, showing us that temptation isn't a sin. Understanding this helps us avoid the spiral of shame that often accompanies temptation. One of my favorite passages of Scripture on resisting temptation is this:  1 Corinthians 10:13: The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure. Keep listening as I share five steps to overcome temptation.  __________________________________________________ Connect with me on Instagram @MrsDanaChe. Keep your week faith-filled, and I'll catch you on the next episode. Take care!   Links Mentioned in this Episode:  Get your free affirmations audio: Speak Life! here.  For the full podcast show notes, visit https://realrelationshiptalk.com/188.    SUBSCRIBE | SHARE | RATE | COMMENT  To ensure you never miss an episode, be sure to subscribe or follow on Apple Podcasts, Google Play, Spotify, iHeart Radio, or wherever you listen to podcasts. Remember, sharing is caring! Thank you for sharing these episodes with your friends and family via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

We’re breaking down the effects of toxic masculinity. Our guest, Zachary Wagner helps us redefine a healthy sexual ethic within the Christian faith, particularly in the wake of trauma & purity culture. Drawing insights from his book, Zachary explains how traditional teachings about sexuality can often dehumanize men and women. We propose a rehumanizing approach that honors God and embraces a full personhood perspective. Key Points Discussed: Purity Culture and Its Pitfalls Beyond Sexual Behavior to a Proper Sexual Ethic Dehumanization in Traditional Teachings About Sex Rehumanizing Sex in Marriage Why Some Fear Sexual Intimacy in Marriage Listener Takeaways: For Singles: Understand and develop a sexual ethic that honors yourself and others beyond mere adherence to rules. For Married Couples: Explore how to engage in your sexual relationship that is rehumanizing and considers the holistic well-being of both partners. For Church Leaders: Encourage teachings and dialogues that address the deeper relational and spiritual aspects of sexuality rather than focusing solely on behavior. Links Mentioned in this Episode:  Zachary Wagner’s Website & Book  Take my free “How Connected a Partner are You” Quiz! Visit www.realrelationshiptalk.com/187 for the full show notes and more resources!   Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE and I'd love your 5-star rating and review! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

How to Pray for Everything in Your Life in Less than 5 Minutes! Is your day so hectic that you don’t have time to pray? In this Faith Friday episode, we’re unpacking how to pray in less than five minutes. Praying effectively and efficiently, even amidst a busy life is not only possible but highly beneficial. Prayer doesn't have to be ultra time-consuming and should be a meaningful conversation with your Creator. It will grow into a longer conversation without you realizing it.  It’s important that we pray for more than just ourselves. I’m sharing two acronyms that will help you to pray in a short amount of time for nearly everything in your life. When we pray, we should always approach God with praise or thanksgiving. Psalm 100:1-2, 4 reminders of how to approach God in prayer.  Acronyms are very helpful when we need to remember how to do something. Prayer should not be rote, but learning an acronym or two can help you to focus your prayer life and make your prayers more efficient. The first acronym I share is an oldie but goodie. P-R-A-Y. And the second is a new one called T-R-I-P-S. Be sure to listen to the full episode to hear me break down each one!  For the full show notes, visit realrelationshiptalk.com/episode186.    Links Mentioned in this Episode:  Download your FREE Speak Life Affirmations Audio here.    SUBSCRIBE | SHARE | RATE | COMMENT  To ensure you never miss an episode, be sure to subscribe or follow on Apple Podcasts, Google Play, Spotify, iHeart Radio, or wherever you listen to podcasts. Remember, sharing is caring! Thank you for sharing these episodes with your friends and family via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

How can you develop spiritual intimacy when you and your spouse are in different spots on your faith walk? Today's special guests are Rob and Joanna Teigen, authors and marriage and family mentors who are passionate about helping marriages and families flourish. Rob and Joanna met in bible college, where they began their courtship. They were both Christians, but Joanna was relatively new to her faith when they met. We talk about what to do when a couple is “unequally yoked” or mismatched spiritually. Also, what should a good devotional life as a couple look like? Here are more takeaways from our conversation: Dealing with Spiritual Mismatch Navigating the Waiting Season Creating Spiritual Practices Building Spiritual Intimacy Fun and Laughter in Spiritual Intimacy   For the full podcast show notes, visit https://realrelationshiptalk.com/episode185.   Links Mentioned in this Episode: Website - Rob & Joanna Book Store  Growing Home Together Podcast  Take My Free “How Connected a Partner Are You” Quiz   SUBSCRIBE | SHARE | RATE | COMMENT  To ensure you never miss an episode, be sure to subscribe or follow on Apple Podcasts, Google Play, Spotify, iHeart Radio, or wherever you listen to podcasts. Remember, sharing is caring! Thank you for sharing these episodes with your friends and family via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

It’s Faith Friday! Have you ever wanted to share your faith journey but hesitated because you felt you didn’t know enough Bible? Today, I'm going to address a common concern: How can you share your faith when you don't know many scriptures?  You're not alone if you've felt this way. Many Christians hesitate to share their faith because they believe they need to be Bible experts. Francis of Assisi said, "Preach the gospel at all times, and when necessary, use words." Your life is a testament to your faith. Be mindful of how you live. Three keys to sharing your faith are:  Live your life in a way that compels people to want to know Christ. Learn the art of listening. Share your story in relation to God's story. Be sure to listen to the full episode to hear me break these keys down. For the full podcast show notes, visit https://realrelationshiptalk.com/episode184.   Links Mentioned in this Episode:  Get your FREE “Speak Life” Audio Affirmations here.    SUBSCRIBE | SHARE | RATE | COMMENT  To ensure you never miss an episode, be sure to subscribe or follow on Apple Podcasts, Google Play, Spotify, iHeart Radio, or wherever you listen to podcasts. Remember, sharing is caring! Thank you for sharing these episodes with your friends and family via email or social media.   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.