Your Desires Are Trying to Tell You Something (with Jay Stringer)
Many of us have learned to live at odds with our own desires. Some of us follow them wherever they lead. Others try to suppress or manage them. Either way, desire can begin to feel like something we don’t quite trust.
In this episode of the Unhurried Living Podcast, Alan Fadling sits down with therapist and author Jay Stringer to explore a more honest and hopeful way of understanding desire. Drawing from his book Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow, Jay helps us see how even our most confusing or unwanted desires can become pathways toward healing.
Together, they discuss:
- Why desire can feel like a “civil war” within us
- How our stories shape the desires we carry
- The role of shame—and the invitation to curiosity
- How to discern the deeper longing beneath misdirected desire
- A simple next step toward healing and greater awareness
This is a conversation for anyone who has ever felt conflicted inside—and wondered if there might be a more grace-filled way forward.
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Alan consults and coaches leaders and their organizations in the U.S. and around the world, helping them work towards long-term productivity that lasts rather than settling for quick fixes that don’t. He is the award-winning author of five books, including An Unhurried Life, An Unhurried Leader, and A Non-Anxious Life.
Gem is the co-host of the Unhurried Living Podcast as well as the author of Hold That Thought and co-author of What Does Your Soul Love? Her work has appeared in Propel Women and Our Daily Bread.
