Your Hope-Filled Perspective with Dr. Michelle Bengtson podcast

Episode Summary: If you have ever gone through a difficult trial that you hadn’t anticipated, or given an unexpected diagnosis, then today is the perfect show for you. Today we’re going to be talking about how to maintain our hope when unexpected news like a devastating medical diagnosis turns your life upside down. We’ll specifically discuss hope for the fight against cancer. In this episode, Scott Bengtson shares about some of the very difficult life circumstances that turned our lives upside down, from a long-distance commuter marriage for several years to his fight against cancer with a very poor prognosis. He reflected on how his upbringing resurfaced during those times to provide him a foundation on which he could rest his hope despite what doctors warned would be his fate.  We also discussed tips for how we chose to navigate those treacherous waters, while minimizing the negativity in our lives and focusing on what we knew to be true.  Scott and I discussed the importance of knowing what you believe before crisis hits because that is no time to try to determine what you think is true. You must cement your beliefs before you fight against cancer. We also talked about the importance of guarding our hearts and minds, and what exactly that means. We also shared things that people said or did that were of help and encouragement, as well as things that were said or done which were not helpful. Scott ended the broadcast sharing his perspective about how to maintain hope in the difficult times, and reminded us that doctors are just human, and they give their best estimates but that God cannot be put in a box or limited to humanly derived statistics. Quotables from the episode: Tears are liquid prayers. Life may be difficult, but successes still happen. Sometimes we hold on to hope by doing what you know to do. There were many days of discouragement and fear, filled with many anguished prayers. A lot of those days were valley days. But what got us through those dark days was knowing who he was, who his Father was, and how we could go to Him in honest prayers, and we had the privilege to worship Him. The trials we experienced didn’t change the truth that we knew. It is often not living day by day, but depending on God moment by moment. You have to know what you believe before a crisis hits, because that is what you will fall back on when crisis hits. It would have been easier to get through those trials if we had understood the power of our words, and the importance of guarding our minds. We made the decision to no longer watch the evening news or take the daily newspaper because we wanted to limit the negativity that entered our home. We are now less likely to allow people to speak negative things to or over us. And now we are more careful about what we say to others. When someone is going through a trial or devastating diagnosis, your presence is more important than your words. Limit your questions because it can be very wearing to have to answer the same questions repeatedly. In the book of Job, he experienced so many devastating hardships. Job’s friends came and sat with him for 7 days in his time of grief. Yet they got in trouble when they opened their mouths. Don’t say to a person in a crisis situation, “If you need anything, let me know.” If you think of something that might be helpful, just do it. They will appreciate it. Be consistent in your presence and your support.   Scripture References: Philippians 4:1, “Therefore, my brothers and sisters, you whom I love and long for, my joy and crown, stand firm in the Lord in this way, dear friends!” Philippians 4:8, “Finally brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”   Recommended Resources: https://drmichellebengtson.com/practical-grace-how-to-not-be-friend-to-someone-with-cancer-part-1/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/practical-grace-what-not-to-say-to-someone-with-cancer-part-2/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/practical-grace-how-to-be-friend-to-someone-with-cancer-part-3/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/how-to-support-someone-with-cancer/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/10-lessons-learned-after-being-diagnosed-with-cancer/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/the-day-i-was-diagnosed-with-cancer-18-promises-when-crisis-hits/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/the-cancer-in-each-of-us/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/what-cancer-taught-me-about-the-church/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/hope-prevails-even-in-cancer/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/how-testimonies-in-bible-bolster-faith-during-hard-times/ “Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award https://amzn.to/2zB0e7J “Hope Prevails Bible Study” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award https://amzn.to/2yMdN46   Social Media Links for Host: For more hope, stay connected with Dr. Bengtson at: To order Hope Prevails: https://drmichellebengtson.com/hope-prevails-book/ Website: https://drmichellebengtson.com/ Blog: https://drmichellebengtson.com/blog/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrMichelleBengtson Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrMBengtson (@DrMBengtson) LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmichellebengtson/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmichellebengtson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drbhopeprevails/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MichelleBengtson Radio Show Host: http://graceandtruthradio.world/shows/your-hope-filled-perspective/ Guest: Scott Bengtson Scott earned his electrical engineering degree from Georgia Tech University. He spent the better part of his career in telecommunications. He has been married to his wife, Michelle for 31 years, and together they have two children: one who is a junior in college, and the other a junior in high school. He is a 3-time cancer survivor and gives God all the glory. In his spare time, Scott leads a men’s Bible study and serves in his local church. Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson Air Date:  July 22, 2019 Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Episode Summary:   Today we’re going to be talking about the pain of the friendship relationships that steal your joy. Specifically, toxic friends. Have you ever struggled with a friendship that has gone array? Perhaps you invested yourself fully into a friendship only to find out that the relationship was a bit one-sided, or perhaps even a toxic friendship? If so, then today is the perfect show for you.   There's something wrong with your friendship, but you can't figure out what. Is everything in your head? Unfortunately, most of us have a few toxic friends over the course of our life. Toxic friendships happen to everyone, but we seldom identify the underlying issues while we battle confusion or the friendship breaks up. Friendships can be hard but breaking up is even harder. Maybe you're left bewildered in the friendship's wake, paralyzed to move forward. On today’s show we are going to be talking to Mary DeMuth. After wading through several difficult relationships with toxic friends, Mary reveals the seven different types of toxic friendships and empowers you to identify the messiest relationships causing you the greatest anguish.   I had the pleasure of reading an early copy of her book, The Seven Deadly Friendships and offered my written endorsement: "In 30 years as a mental health practitioner, I've had the privilege of working with patients who have struggled with and suffered because of toxic friends, akin to those detailed in The Seven Deadly Friendships. Mary helps us identify those toxic relationships and then points us to seven life-giving practices to help us receive and extend healthy friendships."   Quotables from the episode:   Have you ever had toxic friends? If so, you’ll want to listen to this episode of Your Hope-Filled Perspective with Dr. Michelle Bengtson. The toxic friendships are based on the seven deadly sins listed in Proverbs 6: haughty eyes, lying tongue, hands that kill the innocent, a heart that plots evil, feet that race to do wrong, a false witness who pours out lies, and a person who sows discord in a family. Almost all sins are relational in some sort of way, whether they are relational toward God or toward others. The difficult relationships we face that coordinate with the seven deadly sins are: Narcissist Nolan, Unreliable Uma, Predator Paige, Conman Connor, Temptor Trevor, Faker Fiona, and Dramatic Drake. For each of these types of relationships, we need to know what the scriptures say about them, but we also need to ask ourselves the question, “Am I like this?” Relationships are built on two or more individuals, and we each play a role in their success or their failure. We need to examine our hearts and become better friends, because the stuff of life is built on friendships. There are a lot of divorce recovery books available, but until now there wasn’t a friendship divorce recovery book to guide us through such relationship breakups. Friendship breakups can be even more painful than a romantic breakup. Part of the reason for that is because we don’t expect it. When you are dating someone to find a mate, you anticipate kissing a few frogs before finding the prince to spend your life with. But especially as women, we tend to look at friendships and expect them to be lifelong and not just for a season. When they break up, we are left wondering “what’s wrong with me?” The deadly friendship that seemed like it would be the least common was actually one of the most common: Conman Connor. When you have equated a relationship with finances or money, which can be as simple as someone friending you on facebook only to turn around and ask you to buy their awesome product, that is quite common. Just about everyone has experienced that kind of a relationship. That is a transactional view of relationship and we need to be super cautious about that. When that happens we are left feeling dirty because we were used, and our relationship is undervalued because they only want you for the dollar sign. In today’s world, Faker Fiona is common. That’s someone with cameleon-like tendencies because we present one way online but often different in person. Narcissistic personalities are often difficult to identify because they present as charming and engaging, rather than controlling and manipulative. It can be hard after a friendship breakup because we blame ourselves even when people with predatory or narcissistic tendencies are skilled at preying on others. It helps to ask, “Why was I attracted to people who are so self-absorbed, or who were preying on me?” It often goes back to childhood, thinking that if we could just get those personality types to love us, then they would complete our incomplete story from childhood. The Lord has to be the completer of our story. He is perfect, He is loving, He loves me no matter what. He can complete that love need that we have. This is not meant to just point the finger, but to help us grow and change and become better friends to others. Relationship is a good thing. God said it was not good for Adam to be alone so He created a companion for Adam in the Garden of Eden. But sin has come into the world, so now it’s a matter of learning how to grow AND how to guard our heart. Jesus had very close relationships with twelve, not with thousands. He modeled for us how to choose good relationships and invest in relationships that want reciprocity. If we imagine the freedom to walk away, and think about how God may heal us, or heal the other person, that can truly be healing to know that things will be okay even if we walk away. It also helps to consult an unbiased party who is not involved in the relationship to get their perspective; either a trusted friend or a counselor. Whether you rely on a couple of close friends who have your back but will speak the truth in love, or a therapist who is unbiased and can offer an unbiased perspective, a neutral third party can reflect the truth back to you so that this doesn’t have to continue as a lifelong cycle. Therapy helps you determine why you continue to choose the same behavior repeatedly. If you feel like you are the one contributing to a relationship, we always have the opportunity to apologize, and repentance does amazing things. But it takes two for reconciliation. If God removes someone from your life, don’t go chasing after them. There is a reason He removed them. It’s not up to us to change other people, we are responsible for our own behavior. Don’t let past pain embitter you to future relationships. If you never open your heart again to safe community, you will spiral down in bitterness. Our prayer for you is that you might identify relationships that are truly not healthy friends, so you can do something about them and remain in community.   Scripture References:   “He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm.” (Proverbs 13:20) “As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.” (Proverbs 27:17)   Recommended Resources:   7 Deadly Friendships: How to Heal When Painful Relationships Eat Away at Your Joy by Mary DeMuth https://amzn.to/2xI5bL Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Cloud and Townsend https://amzn.to/2SorqAi https://drmichellebengtson.com/10-traits-grace-based-friends/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/ask-dr-b-surviving-a-friends-betrayal/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/who-is-your-best-friend/   Social Media Links for Host and Guest:   To contact Mary: Website: MaryDeMuth.comPrayEveryDay.show: https://www.marydemuth.com/category/pray-every-day-podcast/ Book: 7deadlyfriendships.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AuthorMaryDeMuth Twitter: https://twitter.com/marydemuth Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marydemuth/    For more hope, stay connected with Dr. Bengtson at: To order Hope Prevails: https://drmichellebengtson.com/hope-prevails-book/ Website: https://drmichellebengtson.com/ Blog: https://drmichellebengtson.com/blog/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrMichelleBengtson Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrMBengtson (@DrMBengtson) LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmichellebengtson/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmichellebengtson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drbhopeprevails/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MichelleBengtson Radio Show Host: http://graceandtruthradio.world/shows/your-hope-filled-perspective/    Air Date: July 15, 2019   Guest: Mary DeMuth Mary DeMuth is a writer and speaker who loves to help people live re-storied lives. Author of more than 30 books, including parenting books, Southern fiction, and a memoir entitled Thin Places, Mary speaks around the country and the world. Today, Mary is giving of her time to share with us in order that we might enjoy the fruit of healthy friendships.   Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Episode Summary:   We have all experienced the loss of loved ones, and if you haven’t, you will, because death happens to all of us. If you have ever had a friend or loved one who is terminally ill or referred to hospice care at the end of their life, or wondered about hospice and what they do, then today is the perfect show for you.   In this episode, I’m talking with my friend, Shelley Sisson, a retired hospice and palliative care nurse. Shelley shares what hospice care entails, when it is utilized, and how to die well. She shares that the end of life is like standing on holy ground, and although it can be painful to watch a friend or loved one with a terminal illness die, that we can catch glimpses of heavenly treasures if we will look for them.   When a terminally ill patient has been referred for hospice care, the goal is symptom management and to keep them as comfortable as possible during whatever time they have left. Hospice has a team that works together to provide medication management, self-care, chaplain services, as well as patient and family education to help the family best support their loved one at the end of their life.   Shelley shares how we can best support a friend or loved one with a terminal illness receiving hospice care, as well as how we can support their grieving loved ones.  Death is inevitable for all of us, but we can take the opportunity to die well.     Quotables from the episode:   Today we’re going to be talking about hope in the midst of loving someone with a terminal illness. If you have ever had a friend or loved one who is terminally ill and referred to hospice care, or wondered about hospice and what they do, then today is the perfect show for you. It’s crucial that at the end of life, we learn how to die well. Hospice is medical care that can be provided once a doctor has said that there is nothing else that can be done to cure a condition. Hospice provides care and comfort measures, to address symptoms, and to keep the patient comfortable in their final days. Hospice care is usually provided for the last few days to months of a terminally ill patient’s life. If you or your loved one are not clicking with your hospice team, there are other teams available, and it’s okay to ask to be transferred to work with another team that might be a better fit. Hospice helps provide support for administering medications, self-care for the patient, and trains the family to be able to best support their loved one. There is always a last dose of medication. Someone has to administer the last dose. But it is not the last dose that has caused them to die. It is not something to feel guilty about. Don’t exclude your children from the dying process. They tend to handle it better than adults do. But if you don’t include them, they will be prone to believe lies rather than the truth about the situation, and those lies can haunt them into adulthood. Please don’t tell your little children that the patient went to sleep, because everyone goes to sleep every night, but that can cause fear that they will go to sleep and never wake up. Tell them the truth. Look for Jesus. He promised that He will never leave us or forsake us. He is there in the room with your loved one. If they are staring at someone, ask them what they see. If a patient indicates they are seeing something, encourage them to ask. God gives them glimpses of heaven to prepare them to leave this world and enter the next world. The only struggle they have is leaving this world and leaving their family members behind. It’s okay to cry. Tears are liquid prayers. Some of the signs and signals that we can see if we look for them, are God’s way of comforting them so they are not afraid of leaving this world. But patients and their loved ones often experience fear at the thought of death. But God is not going to let them go through this alone. Tell your friend or loved one that you love them, that you will miss them, but that will be okay. Patients often hold on longer because they fear their loved ones won’t be okay in their absence. Sometimes there are no words. Sometimes words aren’t necessary, but your presence always matters. Don’t be afraid to laugh—laughter is good medicine. To the loved ones of a terminally ill patient, let them know that you are going to be there for them. Let them know that their feelings are normal, and that what they are going through is normal. Let them know that there is no time span cut off for grief. Share your fond memories of them and their loved ones. A new normal will develop although it doesn’t happen quickly. Nothing seems normal anymore, but that will change over time. The intense grief will lessen, but you will still miss your loved one. Even Jesus wept when Lazarus died, which gives us permission to grieve. If you are mourning or grieving, it is not a lack of faith. It just attests to how much you love them, and how much it hurts to go on without them. It’s a hard battle in your own soul to know that they will be better off, even if it means you have to let go. To the one with a terminal illness, take every moment to love on your loved ones that you have. Even with a terminal illness, it can be a blessing to give you a chance to make amends. Love them. Know that Jesus is with you. He is going to be with you in this process and be with you on the other side. To the loved ones of terminally ill patients, if you are both believers, you will see your loved one again. It’s hard, but you will see them again. God is faithful—He will mend your heart. He won’t erase your memories, but He will mend your heart. Not even death can separate us from the love of God.   Scripture References:   Deuteronomy 31:6 “So be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid and do not panic before them. For the Lord your God will personally go ahead of you. He will neither fail you nor abandon you.” Joshua 1:9, “This is my command—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” Romans 8:38-39 says “And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Zephaniah 3:17 says, “For the Lord your God is living among you. He is a mighty savior. He will take delight in you with gladness. With his love, he will calm all your fears. He will rejoice over you with joyful songs.”   Recommended Resources:   Crossing the Creek: A Practical Guide to Understanding the Dying Process by Michael Holmes (no amazon link) Living at the End of Life: A Hospice Nurse Addresses the Most Common Questions by Karen Whitley Bell, RN https://amzn.to/32qeqPA Changing the Way We Die: Compassionate End of Life Care and The Hospice Movement by Fran Smith, Sheila Himmel, and Joan Halifax https://amzn.to/32nlyfq https://drmichellebengtson.com/practical-grace-how-to-not-be-friend-to-someone-with-cancer-part-1/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/practical-grace-what-not-to-say-to-someone-with-cancer-part-2/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/practical-grace-how-to-be-friend-to-someone-with-cancer-part-3/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/how-to-support-someone-with-cancer/ “Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award https://amzn.to/2zB0e7J “Hope Prevails Bible Study” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award https://amzn.to/2yMdN46     Social Media Links for Host and Guest:   National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization: https://www.nhpco.org/   For more hope, stay connected with Dr. Bengtson at:   To order Hope Prevails: https://drmichellebengtson.com/hope-prevails-book/ Website: https://drmichellebengtson.com/ Blog: https://drmichellebengtson.com/blog/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrMichelleBengtson Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrMBengtson (@DrMBengtson) LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmichellebengtson/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmichellebengtson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drbhopeprevails/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MichelleBengtson Radio Show Host: http://graceandtruthradio.world/shows/your-hope-filled-perspective/   Air Date: July 8, 2019   Guest: Shelley Sisson, retired hospice and palliative care nurse Shelley was a Certified Hospice and Palliative Care Nurse for 12 years and worked all over the United States, but mostly in Oklahoma and Central Texas. She retired and moved back to Oklahoma. She still has a passion for all things hospice and what it provides to patients and their families.   Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Episode Summary:   If you’ve ever been in a caregiving role, whether it be for a child, spouse, sick parent or relative, you know how hard it can be to care for yourself as well. In this episode, we are going to talk about caregiver burnout, and how we can have hope as caregivers, despite the toll it can take.   We’ll be talking with Sarah Forgrave, one who has been in the position of caregiver for at least two different family members, and author of the book Prayers of Hope for Caregivers.   Sarah’s impetus for writing about hope and prayer for caregivers was birthed out of her own season of caregiving for her sister, and then for her young son. Sarah learned ways to help avoid caregiver burnout. She understands the many challenges a caregiver faces, and the fact that caregivers are often overlooked in the shadow of the person who’s sick.   Sarah shares how she learned that we can talk to God authentically where we are, that we don’t have to put on a Christian mask, and that He welcomes us just as we are.   Sarah also shares that in order to avoid caregiver burnout, carve out a few minutes each day to nurture your soul. During times of caregiving, all of your attention goes toward the other person’s wellbeing, but don’t forget about your own needs in the process. Self-care is crucial to providing care for others.   As you go through each day, pay attention to the five-minute windows you have alone (like when your care recipient is sleeping, when you’re driving, etc.), and make one intentional choice to nurture our relationship with God. Maybe read a short devotional at home or listen to an uplifting worship song while you drive. You might take a few deep breaths and incorporate Scripture medication with it—whatever fits the moment.   Quotables from the episode:   If you have ever been a caregiver to a child, or a sick parent, spouse, friend, or relative, then today is the perfect episode for you. When you feel alone or invisible as a caregiver, remember that God sees you and hears you. His strength is more than enough to carry us through—it may be a minute by minute process of trust, but He will provide what we need. It is not selfish for the caregiver to engage in some self-care, in fact, it will help avoid caregiver burnout. You have to refill yourself before you can pour out on others. In order to avoid caregiver burnout, carve out a few minutes each day to nurture your soul. Listening to this episode can help.   Scripture References:   Psalm 142:4-5 “I look for someone to come and help me, but no one gives me a passing thought! No one will help me; no one cares a bit what happens to me. Then I pray to you, O Lord, I say, ‘you are my place of refuge. You are all I really want in life.” Psalm 22:24 “God has never let you down, never looked the other way when you were being kicked around. He has never wandered off to do his own thing; he has been right there, listening.” 1 Peter 5:10 “After you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you.”   Recommended Resources:   Sarah’s website, sarahforgrave.com has additional resources both for caregivers and the person who is sick, including biblical encouragement, uplifting songs for hard times, and more. It also contains resources for friends wanting to come alongside someone going through a hard time, including thoughtful gift ideas, meal delivery suggestions, and printable cards of encouragement. Prayers of Hope for Caregivers by Sarah Forgrave https://amzn.to/2xpZB0X Prayers of Hope and Healing by Sarah Forgrave https://amzn.to/32gdjBU https://drmichellebengtson.com/caring-for-the-caregiver/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/5-tips-for-having-a-servant-heart/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/how-to-support-someone-with-cancer/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/dementia-caregiver-lessons-pt1/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/dementia-caregiver-lessons-pt2/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/dementia-caregiver-lessons3/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/dementia-caregiver-lessons4/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/dementia-caregiver-lessons5/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/practical-grace-how-to-not-be-friend-to-someone-with-cancer-part-1/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/practical-grace-what-not-to-say-to-someone-with-cancer-part-2/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/practical-grace-how-to-be-friend-to-someone-with-cancer-part-3/ “Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award https://amzn.to/2zB0e7J “Hope Prevails Bible Study” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award https://amzn.to/2yMdN46   Social Media Links for Host and Guest:   Stay connected to Sarah Forgrave   Website: https://www.sarahforgrave.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AuthorSarahForgrave Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahforgrave_author Pinterest: http://www.pinterest.com/sarahforgrave   For more hope, stay connected with Dr. Bengtson at:   To order Hope Prevails: https://drmichellebengtson.com/hope-prevails-book/ Website: https://drmichellebengtson.com/ Blog: https://drmichellebengtson.com/blog/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrMichelleBengtson Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrMBengtson (@DrMBengtson) LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmichellebengtson/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmichellebengtson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drbhopeprevails/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MichelleBengtson Radio Show Host: http://graceandtruthradio.world/shows/your-hope-filled-perspective/   Guest: Sarah Forgrave, author and speaker Sarah Forgrave is the author of Prayers of Hope for Caregivers and Prayers for Hope and Healing, prayer devotionals that connect readers to God during hard times. Familiar with the broken messes of life, Sarah loves encouraging others toward a deeper walk of faith. When she’s not writing or speaking, she loves to shop the aisles at Trader Joe’s or spend time with her husband and two preteen children in their Midwest home. Visit Sarah at www.sarahforgrave.com.   Air Date: July 1, 2019   Guest: Sarah Forgrave Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Episode Summary:   In this episode, I talk with a long-time colleague, and trusted friend, Dr. Lori Spohr. We have both worked in the field of Neuropsychology for over 25 years helping patients with various neurological disorders including traumatic brain injury. Dr. Spohr is a rehab neuropsychologist and works primarily with patients with illness or injury like stroke, traumatic brain injury, dementia, or patients with chronic difficulties like multiple sclerosis.   Frequently following traumatic brain injury or concussion, loved ones and family members do not have a good understanding of the neurological process, what symptoms might be experienced, a typical course of recovery, what they can expect during recovery, and how they might be able to assist with recovery to help optimize healing.   In this episode, Dr. Spohr and I discuss the advances in traumatic brain injury over the last 30 years, the biggest struggle for traumatic brain injury sufferers, and the biggest struggles for their caregivers. We also then discuss how the TBI patient can still hold on to hope, and what they can do to help maintain good self-care in the recovery process.   Quotables from the episode:   If you are someone who has suffered from a traumatic brain injury, or are a caregiver for someone with #TBI, then listen to this episode! #concussion Neuropsychology utilizes assessment and testing to help patients better understand themselves and work toward improving their quality of life. Neuropsychology focuses on neurological illness or injury and how that affects a person’s behavior and thought. Now, the majority of patients who get a traumatic brain injury survive it. The brain controls everything about us. Patients with a traumatic brain injury often have changes in physical functioning, emotional functioning (sometimes depression, irritability, anger) as well as changes in thinking skills (like making decisions and keeping themselves safe). A traumatic brain injury affects the whole family. Initially the caregivers want them to survive, then they focus on the physical challenges because they are the most obvious, then they are faced with the changes in behavior and cognition. It can be hard to adapt both for the traumatic brain injury patient and their caregivers because you can’t see the injury. This makes it hard for the caregivers to appreciate that there is an ongoing problem. Even mild brain injuries have changes in attention, organizing, and planning, and those can be very frustrating deficits. For a traumatic brain injury patient, it is a matter of being able to accept what is while going on to adapt to a new normal. A patient with traumatic brain injury often has difficulty returning to school, to work, and to their relationships, and it can be difficult for friends and caregivers can struggle because the patient is often unaware of their own deficits. Neuropsychologists, rehab psychologists, and health psychologists help the patient and family members adjust to such changes. We would encourage traumatic brain injury patient to reach out to other professionals for help such as rehab psychologists, good speech pathologists, occupational therapists, physical therapists, and good behavioral medicine psychologists and therapists. Brain injury recovery continues well after two years. Don’t grow impatient or lose hope, because it is likely that things will continue to improve. Frustration is normal in the recovery process. It is natural to feel irritable and overwhelmed during recovery. Feel free to take breaks as the frustration grows but go back at it and don’t give up on it. Those who do the best are those who will persevere through it. Those who maintain a combination of perseverance and optimism experience the greatest hope. Sometimes it is a matter of learning something new. Many traumatic brain injury patients move on to new and different roles, jobs, and vocations. There can be a lot of change. We all need a way to contribute, even if that is different from how a traumatic brain injury patient previously contributed to society. About 50% of traumatic brain injury patients may go through a major depressive disorder, and even more will experience what is called an adjustment disorder. It is very common for people who have experienced any major medical condition (e.g. stroke, heart attack, organ transplantation, cancer, etc.) to experience some change in their mental health. Sometimes respite care is a very helpful component of treatment for traumatic brain injury patient caregivers to be able to continue helping others. You must take care of yourself first. Giving yourself permission to take breaks and utilize resources can help you remain effective in the longer run. It can be difficult for a caregiver to not take it personally after caring for someone with a traumatic brain injury patient may take out their frustration on those who are caring for them. It’s helpful to step outside of it and realize that they aren’t personally attacking, but reacting out of their own frustration. Part of taking care of ourselves includes getting enough rest, eating right, and when able getting physical exercise. There are many dimensions of wellness: relationships, physical abilities, emotional well-being, cognitive wellness, vocational satisfaction, etc. Keep pursuing, keep trying, keep going after your hopes and dreams, and do not give up!   Scripture References:   Jeremiah 30:17 “I will give you back your health and heal your wounds, says the Lord.”    Recommended Resources:   https://www.braininjuryhopefoundation.org/ http://www.braintrauma.org/ https://braininjuryfoundation.org/ http://thebraininjuryfoundation.com/ “Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award https://amzn.to/2zB0e7J “Hope Prevails Bible Study” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award https://amzn.to/2yMdN46     Social Media Links for Host and Guest:   Stay connected with Dr. Lori Spohr: Madonna Rehabilitation Hospital: https://www.madonna.org/   For more hope, stay connected with Dr. Bengtson at:   To order Hope Prevails: https://drmichellebengtson.com/hope-prevails-book/ Website: https://drmichellebengtson.com/ Blog: https://drmichellebengtson.com/blog/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrMichelleBengtson Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrMBengtson (@DrMBengtson) LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmichellebengtson/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmichellebengtson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drbhopeprevails/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MichelleBengtson Radio Show Host: http://graceandtruthradio.world/shows/your-hope-filled-perspective/   Air Date: June 10, 2019   Guest: Dr. Lori Terryberry-Spohr, Director of Rehabilitation Programs at Madonna Rehabilitation Hospital. Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Episode Summary:   Statistics suggest that 1 in 3 women will have an abortion, and all need to know there is hope for what they often experience as a post abortion syndrome.  The ultimate shame and grief over the loss of that child is often as intense as a mother who loses a child to miscarriage or premature death. If you or a loved one have endured an abortion, then today is the perfect show for you for a hope-filled perspective.   In this episode we talk with Jessica DeYoung, who shares her story surrounding her decision to have an abortion, as well as her experience with the post abortion syndrome.  Jessica explains that she believed that if she had her baby, it would destroy her family, and that she felt (as many women do) that abortion was the only option.  So she and her boyfriend came to the conclusion that they needed to take the life of someone nobody knew about rather than destroying both of their families.   Jessica shared that she repeatedly asked God to forgive her for having an abortion, and one day when she was apologizing yet again and asking God to forgive her, he replied, “Sweet daughter, I don’t know what you are talking about” because He had already forgiven her, but she had yet to receive His forgiveness and forgive herself.  Jessica explained that part of the healing process in her post abortion syndrome entailed sharing her story, first with one person, then with many, so that the secrets she held in the dark would no longer have power over her.   Quotables from the episode:   One in three women will have an abortion. If you are one who has experienced an abortion and have been trying to heal from post abortion syndrome, then this episode is for you. When you are pregnant and in a desperate situation, it feels like there is nothing else you can do, but that is not the truth. Each of us will have times in our lives where there feels there is no way out of the situation so we take things into our own hands. With hardship, it doesn’t matter how big or little it seems to other people, when you are the one going through it, it is a big things. Loving a woman who is in the midst of a post abortion syndrome can help them not feel so ashamed and allow them to heal. Satan wants to keep up in darkness, but as soon as we shine God’s light into our darkness and through the cracks of our hurt and pain, shame, and guilt, that is where healing starts. It is never God who inflicts guilt, shame, or condemnation on us—that always comes from the enemy of our soul. God is faithful to forgive us. We don’t have the power to forgive ourselves nor do we have the power to save ourselves. What we do have the power to do is to trust in the forgiveness of our Father, and to fully surrender and trust that what He said is true.   Key Scriptures:   “Blessed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted.” Matthew 5:4 “There is therefore no condemnation for those of us who are in Christ Jesus.” Romans 8:1 “He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.” Revelation 21:4   Recommended Resources:   “Surrendering the Secret: Healing the Heartbreak of Abortion” by Pat Layton https://amzn.to/2Lrls0l https://www.surrenderingthesecret.com https://drmichellebengtson.com/5-things-you-should-know-if-you-are-healing-after-abortion/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/ask-dr-b-what-do-i-do-when-i-cant-forgive-myself/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/mistakes-forgiven/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/when-you-dont-feel-like-forgiving/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/grieve-well/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/is-it-grief-or-depression/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/15-tips-to-survive-grief/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/truths-to-remember-when-it-feels-like-life-is-falling-apart/ “Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award https://amzn.to/2zB0e7J “Hope Prevails Bible Study” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award https://amzn.to/2yMdN46   Social Media Links for Host and Guest:   Stay connected with Jessica DeYoung   Website: http://blog.graceunworthy.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessdeyoung/   For more hope, stay connected with Dr. Bengtson at:   To order Hope Prevails: https://drmichellebengtson.com/hope-prevails-book/ Website: https://drmichellebengtson.com/ Blog: https://drmichellebengtson.com/blog/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrMichelleBengtson Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrMBengtson (@DrMBengtson) LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmichellebengtson/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmichellebengtson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drbhopeprevails/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MichelleBengtson Radio Show Host: http://graceandtruthradio.world/shows/your-hope-filled-perspective/   Air Date: June 17, 2019   Guest: Jessica DeYoung, founder of Grace Unworthy ministry Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Episode Summary:   In this episode Dr. Michelle Bengtson shares hope for depression. She talks about her history as a neuropsychologist, treating patients with depression for decades and thinking she was immune to it, before she endured a very bad episode of depression. She helps the listener who is asking the question, am I depressed? She discusses common signs and symptoms of depression to help the listener determine if depression might be something they or a loved one struggle with.   Dr. Bengtson combines her faith with her clinical practice. In this episode, she also shares some of the fundamental spiritual contributors to depression so that they can better understand what they are dealing with. Scripture tells us that “The thief comes only to steal, kill, and destroy, but I have come that they might have life and have it to the full” (John 10:10). When it comes to depression, the enemy steals our joy, kills our peace, and attempts to destroy our identity. In this episode, Dr. Bengtson unpacks how he does that because we can’t fight effectively unless we know what we’re fighting against.   Quotables from the episode:   There is help and hope for depression. By 2020, depression will be our greatest epidemic worldwide; greater than heart disease, cancer, and HIV put together. In their lifetime, one in four will suffer from depression. When it comes to depression, no one is immune. Not even the doctor, nor the Christian. Our feelings are just the outward manifestation of the thoughts we believe. We can’t fight effectively unless we know what we’re fighting against. If you or a loved one are struggling with depression, you are not alone. There is help and hope!     Recommended Resources:   “Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award “Hope Prevails Bible Study” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award. https://drmichellebengtson.com/hope-prevails-despite-depression/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/a-letter-to-one-struggling-with-depression/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/this-thing-called-depression-signs-and-symptoms/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/how-do-i-know-if-im-depressed-common-symptoms-of-depression/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/10-verses-of-hope-for-when-you-are-down-or-depressed/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/20-ways-to-fight-depression/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/can-i-be-cured-of-depression/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/10-things-to-know-if-you-have-a-depressed-loved-one/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/how-to-help-a-depressed-loved-one/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/what-to-say-when-a-loved-one-is-depressed/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/what-not-to-say-when-a-loved-one-is-depressed/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/15-ways-to-help-depressed-husband-wife/   Social Media Links for Host and Guest:   For more hope, stay connected with Dr. Bengtson at:   To order Hope Prevails: https://drmichellebengtson.com/hope-prevails-book/ Website: https://drmichellebengtson.com/ Blog: https://drmichellebengtson.com/blog/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrMichelleBengtson Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrMBengtson (@DrMBengtson) LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmichellebengtson/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmichellebengtson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drbhopeprevails/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MichelleBengtson Radio Show Host: http://graceandtruthradio.world/shows/your-hope-filled-perspective/   Air Date: April 15, 2019   Guest: Dr. Michelle Bengtson, Board Certified Clinical Neuropsychologist, Author, International Speaker Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Episode Summary:   This episode is part 2 of Hope for Depression with Dr. Michelle Bengtson. Dr. Bengtson reviews highlights from part 1, and then answers the question how to fight depression. She reviews the fact that when it comes to depression, the enemy seeks to steal our joy, kill our peace, and destroy our identity. She then shares about the limits God puts on the enemy’s and depression’s influence in our lives, just like God limited the enemy’s impact on Job.  Dr. Bengtson helps us understand that our depressive thoughts aren’t even our own thoughts, and how to combat them.   Dr. Bengtson combines her faith with her clinical practice to help you find out how to fight depression. She shares some of the most common lies the enemy gets us to believe, and then the truth to refute those lies. In this episode, she also shares practical tips for those who want to better support a depressed loved one.   Quotables/Tweetables:   If you wonder how to fight depression, then this is the program for you. When it comes to depression, the enemy of our soul seeks to steal our joy, kill our peace, and destroy our identity. God put limits on the influence that the enemy could have on Job, and God does that for us as well. God doesn’t allow the enemy or depression to define our worth. God is the only one who can define our worth. We have infinite worth because Christ gave His life for us. Christ exchanged our sin for His perfection, our death for His life, and our bondage for His freedom. So if the son sets you free, you are truly free (John 8:36). Depression doesn’t determine our destiny. Your past doesn’t predict your future. If you are a Christ follower, your destiny is secure. God does require perfection, but we can never meet that standard for perfection, only Jesus did. Salvation is because of what Jesus did for us. Both fear and faith demand our focus, but we can trust God and no longer fear. Nothing, not the enemy nor depression, can separate us from the love of God. God’s only requirement of us is not that we would be perfect, but that we would believe in Him. We have a role to play in our own healing. Scripture says we must recover ourselves: recognize we’ve believed the enemy’s lies, repent to God for believing the enemy instead of God’s truth, then renounce and reject the enemy’s lies and replace them with God’s truth. Then receive God’s peace, love, and joy. God doesn’t leave us alone or to our own devices. Jesus never asked questions because He needed the answers. He asked questions so that those he asked them of would learn more. We have between 50-70,000 thoughts a day. How are you doing taking EVERY thought captive? First you have to pay attention to the thoughts you are having, then ask if it is consistent with God says in the Bible, or am I believing a lie? God never wastes our pain. In fact, He uses our pain for good.Depression is not from God. That is not His best for you. He desires for you to be in health and good mental health.   Scripture References:   John 3:16 “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten son, that whosoever believes in Him, should not parish but have everlasting life.” Romans 5:6 “When we were utterly helpless, Christ came at just the right time and died for us sinners.” Jeremiah 31:3 “I have loved you with an everlasting love.” John 8:36 “So if the Son sets you free, you are truly free.” 2 Corinthians 10:5 “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” John 8:32 “you will know the truth, ad the truth will set you free.”   Recommended Resources:   If you wonder how to fight depression, the very best resource is the Word of God, The Bible. “Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award “Hope Prevails Bible Study” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award https://drmichellebengtson.com/hope-prevails-despite-depression/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/a-letter-to-one-struggling-with-depression/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/this-thing-called-depression-signs-and-symptoms/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/how-do-i-know-if-im-depressed-common-symptoms-of-depression/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/10-verses-of-hope-for-when-you-are-down-or-depressed/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/20-ways-to-fight-depression/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/can-i-be-cured-of-depression/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/10-things-to-know-if-you-have-a-depressed-loved-one/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/how-to-help-a-depressed-loved-one/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/what-to-say-when-a-loved-one-is-depressed/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/what-not-to-say-when-a-loved-one-is-depressed/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/15-ways-to-help-depressed-husband-wife/   Social Media Links for Host and Guest:   For more hope, stay connected with Dr. Bengtson at:   To order Hope Prevails: https://drmichellebengtson.com/hope-prevails-book/ Website: https://drmichellebengtson.com/ Blog: https://drmichellebengtson.com/blog/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrMichelleBengtson Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrMBengtson (@DrMBengtson) LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmichellebengtson/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmichellebengtson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drbhopeprevails/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MichelleBengtson Radio Show Host: http://graceandtruthradio.world/shows/your-hope-filled-perspective/   Air Date: April 22, 2019   Guest: Dr. Michelle Bengtson, Board Certified Clinical Neuropsychologist, Author, International Speaker Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Episode Summary:   In this episode, we’re talking about finding hope and calm in the chaos after the loss of a child and how to help a grieving friend. Whether you’ve lost a child to death, or even perhaps lost the dreams you had for your child because of illness or disability, or perhaps you are a friend or loved one to a grieving parent, we want you to know that you are not alone, and that there is hope despite the darkness you may feel.   No one anticipates a child dying, but when that happens, we need to know how to help a grieving friend. We need to know what helps and what doesn’t, what we should say and what we shouldn’t. That’s what Susan shares from her own grief experience.   Quotables from the episode:   The loss of a child is so painful. If you want to know how to help a grieving friend, listen to this episode. God has a purpose for each one of us, and we need to open our hands instead of clenching so tightly what we think is ours. Everyone is going to experience the death of a loved one. When I heard my son died, it was like the earth opened up and I fell into the abyss. In my grief, the longer I looked down at my feet, the blacker it became and I realized I was defeated. The Bible tells us that the enemy of our soul is under our feet, so I was looking at and listening to the liar. We need to look up and find the light. The light is Jesus. We should never say “I know exactly how you feel.” It’s better to compassionately say, “I can’t imagine your pain. But I care.” I challenge people who are grieving to get into the word of God. Let those words wash over you. If you’ve lost a loved one, particularly a child, there is no shame in weeping. Jesus wept. But remember grief is a process and the timeline is different for everyone. God can handle our anger. He knows it anyway. He just wants us to keep talking to Him.   Scripture References:   “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance” (Ecclesiastes 3:1-4) “fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand” (Isaiah 41:10).   Recommended Resources:   “Dance with Jesus: From Grief to Grace” by Susan B. Mead “Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award “Hope Prevails Bible Study” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award https://drmichellebengtson.com/encouraging-words-mothers-who-lost-child/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/how-to-comfort-a-friend-who-has-lost-a-child/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/grieve-well/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/is-it-grief-or-depression/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/15-tips-to-survive-grief/     Social Media Links for Host and Guest:   Stay connected with Susan B. Mead:   Website: https://SusanBMead.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/authorsusanbmead/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SusanBMead Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Susan-B.-Mead/e/B00O705P2C   For more hope, stay connected with Dr. Bengtson at:   To order Hope Prevails: https://drmichellebengtson.com/hope-prevails-book/ Website: https://drmichellebengtson.com/ Blog: https://drmichellebengtson.com/blog/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrMichelleBengtson Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrMBengtson (@DrMBengtson) LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmichellebengtson/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmichellebengtson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drbhopeprevails/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MichelleBengtson Radio Show Host: http://graceandtruthradio.world/shows/your-hope-filled-perspective/   Air Date: ­­­­­­­April 29, 2019   Guest: Susan B. Mead, author, speaker, chaplain and mom with an MBA. Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Episode Summary:   In recent years, I’ve heard quite a bit of discussion about “father wounds” and how those can have a significantly detrimental impact on our relationship with God as our Heavenly Father. But I’ve seen precious little discussion about mother mounds or healing mother wounds.  If you have been the recipient of mother wounds, or perhaps you were the mother who wounded your child, then today is the perfect show for you.   I grew up in a home with a mother who was very depressed my entire childhood, yet we didn’t know at the time that that was what was wrong. She was also from a foreign country where displays of affection or emotion were discouraged. So for a very long time, I believed I was unlovable, and tried desperately to earn my mother’s love, yet received mother wounds instead. Whether this is your story or you have been wounded by a mother in some other way, we want to have a discussion that will provide you with some hope.   In this episode we answer the question what are mother wounds? And where do they come from. Then we address how to heal from mother wounds. Aliene helps us understand what it means to detach from unhealthy branches in order to attach to the one true vine. She discusses the importance of being in God’s word, abiding in His presence, praying in Jesus’s name, and acting on what God tells you in order to heal from mother wounds.   Quotables from the episode: If you have suffered from mother wounds or need healing from mother wounds, then today’s episode is for you. A mother wound is when a child does not receive what God intended for a child to experience with a mother, which is a nurturing environment, and to be nurtured. Mother wounds may be completely unintentional because a mother experienced tragedy or illness and she wasn’t able to provide the nurturing her child needed. Even if a child experiences the loss of a mother, a wound can occur because they didn’t receive the nurturing their soul needs. If we don’t find healing, it will perpetuate itself. On a subconscious level, you will look for what you didn’t receive from your mother which can cause you to seek out unhealthy relationships. If we don’t bring mother wounds into the light, there will be no healing, and they will continue. To find out how to heal mother wounds, listen here. We often inappropriately carry the guilt and shame for our mother’s inappropriate behavior. Your actions will tell you what you believe. Our emotions are the outward manifestation of the thoughts we believe, and our emotions largely govern our behavior. So, we need to pay attention to the thoughts we believe. Father wounds often result in difficulty relating to our Heavenly Father, but mother wounds can result in difficulty relating to the Holy Spirit. We have to detach from our mother to attach to the true vine by forgiving our mothers. One of the most loving things we can do is to love someone where they are despite their faults. If you experience healing in this area, or any other area, do not be surprised if you struggle in this area again because the enemy of our soul knows where our weaknesses are and will always go back there first to try to interfere before trying someplace else.   Scripture References:   Psalm 127:10“Even if my father and mother abandon me, …the Lord will hold me close. Romans 11:17 “But some of these branches from Abraham’s tree—some of the people of Israel—have been broken off. And you Gentiles, who were branches from a wild olive tree, have been grafted in. So now you also receive the blessing God has promised Abraham and his children, sharing in the rich nourishment from the root of God’s special olive tree.” John 14: 16-18“And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Advocate,[ who will never leave you.  He is the Holy Spirit, who leads into all truth. ….. No, I will not abandon you as orphans—I will come to you.”   Recommended Resources:   “Brave Heart: A Nine-Week Study on Joshua (Nourish Bible Study Series)” by Aliene G. Thompson “The Jewish Gospel of John” byEli Lizorkin-Eyzenberg “Mothers Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters” bySusan Forward and Donna Frazier Glynn https://drmichellebengtson.com/dear-younger-mother-20-lessons-i-learned-to-encourage-you/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/motherhood-the-hardest-most-wonderful-job/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/dear-mom-part-1/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/dear-mom-part-2/ “Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award “Hope Prevails Bible Study” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award     Social Media Links for Host and Guest:   Stay connected with Aliene Thompson:   Website: https://treasuredministries.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Treasured.Ministries/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alienethompson 21 Day Challenge: https://www.nourishbiblestudymethod.com/     For more hope, stay connected with Dr. Bengtson at:   To order Hope Prevails: https://drmichellebengtson.com/hope-prevails-book/ Website: https://drmichellebengtson.com/ Blog: https://drmichellebengtson.com/blog/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrMichelleBengtson Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrMBengtson (@DrMBengtson) LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmichellebengtson/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmichellebengtson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drbhopeprevails/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MichelleBengtson Radio Show Host: http://graceandtruthradio.world/shows/your-hope-filled-perspective/   Air Date: ­­­­­­­May 6, 2019   Guest: Aliene Thompson, author of the Nourish Bible Study Series, creator of the Nourish Bible Study Method and founder of Treasured Ministries. 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