Your Hope-Filled Perspective with Dr. Michelle Bengtson podcast

Episode Summary:   This episode is part 2 of Hope for Depression with Dr. Michelle Bengtson. Dr. Bengtson reviews highlights from part 1, and then answers the question how to fight depression. She reviews the fact that when it comes to depression, the enemy seeks to steal our joy, kill our peace, and destroy our identity. She then shares about the limits God puts on the enemy’s and depression’s influence in our lives, just like God limited the enemy’s impact on Job.  Dr. Bengtson helps us understand that our depressive thoughts aren’t even our own thoughts, and how to combat them.   Dr. Bengtson combines her faith with her clinical practice to help you find out how to fight depression. She shares some of the most common lies the enemy gets us to believe, and then the truth to refute those lies. In this episode, she also shares practical tips for those who want to better support a depressed loved one.   Quotables/Tweetables:   If you wonder how to fight depression, then this is the program for you. When it comes to depression, the enemy of our soul seeks to steal our joy, kill our peace, and destroy our identity. God put limits on the influence that the enemy could have on Job, and God does that for us as well. God doesn’t allow the enemy or depression to define our worth. God is the only one who can define our worth. We have infinite worth because Christ gave His life for us. Christ exchanged our sin for His perfection, our death for His life, and our bondage for His freedom. So if the son sets you free, you are truly free (John 8:36). Depression doesn’t determine our destiny. Your past doesn’t predict your future. If you are a Christ follower, your destiny is secure. God does require perfection, but we can never meet that standard for perfection, only Jesus did. Salvation is because of what Jesus did for us. Both fear and faith demand our focus, but we can trust God and no longer fear. Nothing, not the enemy nor depression, can separate us from the love of God. God’s only requirement of us is not that we would be perfect, but that we would believe in Him. We have a role to play in our own healing. Scripture says we must recover ourselves: recognize we’ve believed the enemy’s lies, repent to God for believing the enemy instead of God’s truth, then renounce and reject the enemy’s lies and replace them with God’s truth. Then receive God’s peace, love, and joy. God doesn’t leave us alone or to our own devices. Jesus never asked questions because He needed the answers. He asked questions so that those he asked them of would learn more. We have between 50-70,000 thoughts a day. How are you doing taking EVERY thought captive? First you have to pay attention to the thoughts you are having, then ask if it is consistent with God says in the Bible, or am I believing a lie? God never wastes our pain. In fact, He uses our pain for good.Depression is not from God. That is not His best for you. He desires for you to be in health and good mental health.   Scripture References:   John 3:16 “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten son, that whosoever believes in Him, should not parish but have everlasting life.” Romans 5:6 “When we were utterly helpless, Christ came at just the right time and died for us sinners.” Jeremiah 31:3 “I have loved you with an everlasting love.” John 8:36 “So if the Son sets you free, you are truly free.” 2 Corinthians 10:5 “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” John 8:32 “you will know the truth, ad the truth will set you free.”   Recommended Resources:   If you wonder how to fight depression, the very best resource is the Word of God, The Bible. “Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award “Hope Prevails Bible Study” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award https://drmichellebengtson.com/hope-prevails-despite-depression/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/a-letter-to-one-struggling-with-depression/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/this-thing-called-depression-signs-and-symptoms/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/how-do-i-know-if-im-depressed-common-symptoms-of-depression/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/10-verses-of-hope-for-when-you-are-down-or-depressed/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/20-ways-to-fight-depression/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/can-i-be-cured-of-depression/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/10-things-to-know-if-you-have-a-depressed-loved-one/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/how-to-help-a-depressed-loved-one/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/what-to-say-when-a-loved-one-is-depressed/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/what-not-to-say-when-a-loved-one-is-depressed/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/15-ways-to-help-depressed-husband-wife/   Social Media Links for Host and Guest:   For more hope, stay connected with Dr. Bengtson at:   To order Hope Prevails: https://drmichellebengtson.com/hope-prevails-book/ Website: https://drmichellebengtson.com/ Blog: https://drmichellebengtson.com/blog/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrMichelleBengtson Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrMBengtson (@DrMBengtson) LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmichellebengtson/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmichellebengtson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drbhopeprevails/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MichelleBengtson Radio Show Host: http://graceandtruthradio.world/shows/your-hope-filled-perspective/   Air Date: April 22, 2019   Guest: Dr. Michelle Bengtson, Board Certified Clinical Neuropsychologist, Author, International Speaker Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Episode Summary:   In this episode, we’re talking about finding hope and calm in the chaos after the loss of a child and how to help a grieving friend. Whether you’ve lost a child to death, or even perhaps lost the dreams you had for your child because of illness or disability, or perhaps you are a friend or loved one to a grieving parent, we want you to know that you are not alone, and that there is hope despite the darkness you may feel.   No one anticipates a child dying, but when that happens, we need to know how to help a grieving friend. We need to know what helps and what doesn’t, what we should say and what we shouldn’t. That’s what Susan shares from her own grief experience.   Quotables from the episode:   The loss of a child is so painful. If you want to know how to help a grieving friend, listen to this episode. God has a purpose for each one of us, and we need to open our hands instead of clenching so tightly what we think is ours. Everyone is going to experience the death of a loved one. When I heard my son died, it was like the earth opened up and I fell into the abyss. In my grief, the longer I looked down at my feet, the blacker it became and I realized I was defeated. The Bible tells us that the enemy of our soul is under our feet, so I was looking at and listening to the liar. We need to look up and find the light. The light is Jesus. We should never say “I know exactly how you feel.” It’s better to compassionately say, “I can’t imagine your pain. But I care.” I challenge people who are grieving to get into the word of God. Let those words wash over you. If you’ve lost a loved one, particularly a child, there is no shame in weeping. Jesus wept. But remember grief is a process and the timeline is different for everyone. God can handle our anger. He knows it anyway. He just wants us to keep talking to Him.   Scripture References:   “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance” (Ecclesiastes 3:1-4) “fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand” (Isaiah 41:10).   Recommended Resources:   “Dance with Jesus: From Grief to Grace” by Susan B. Mead “Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award “Hope Prevails Bible Study” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award https://drmichellebengtson.com/encouraging-words-mothers-who-lost-child/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/how-to-comfort-a-friend-who-has-lost-a-child/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/grieve-well/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/is-it-grief-or-depression/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/15-tips-to-survive-grief/     Social Media Links for Host and Guest:   Stay connected with Susan B. Mead:   Website: https://SusanBMead.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/authorsusanbmead/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SusanBMead Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Susan-B.-Mead/e/B00O705P2C   For more hope, stay connected with Dr. Bengtson at:   To order Hope Prevails: https://drmichellebengtson.com/hope-prevails-book/ Website: https://drmichellebengtson.com/ Blog: https://drmichellebengtson.com/blog/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrMichelleBengtson Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrMBengtson (@DrMBengtson) LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmichellebengtson/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmichellebengtson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drbhopeprevails/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MichelleBengtson Radio Show Host: http://graceandtruthradio.world/shows/your-hope-filled-perspective/   Air Date: ­­­­­­­April 29, 2019   Guest: Susan B. Mead, author, speaker, chaplain and mom with an MBA. Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Episode Summary:   In recent years, I’ve heard quite a bit of discussion about “father wounds” and how those can have a significantly detrimental impact on our relationship with God as our Heavenly Father. But I’ve seen precious little discussion about mother mounds or healing mother wounds.  If you have been the recipient of mother wounds, or perhaps you were the mother who wounded your child, then today is the perfect show for you.   I grew up in a home with a mother who was very depressed my entire childhood, yet we didn’t know at the time that that was what was wrong. She was also from a foreign country where displays of affection or emotion were discouraged. So for a very long time, I believed I was unlovable, and tried desperately to earn my mother’s love, yet received mother wounds instead. Whether this is your story or you have been wounded by a mother in some other way, we want to have a discussion that will provide you with some hope.   In this episode we answer the question what are mother wounds? And where do they come from. Then we address how to heal from mother wounds. Aliene helps us understand what it means to detach from unhealthy branches in order to attach to the one true vine. She discusses the importance of being in God’s word, abiding in His presence, praying in Jesus’s name, and acting on what God tells you in order to heal from mother wounds.   Quotables from the episode: If you have suffered from mother wounds or need healing from mother wounds, then today’s episode is for you. A mother wound is when a child does not receive what God intended for a child to experience with a mother, which is a nurturing environment, and to be nurtured. Mother wounds may be completely unintentional because a mother experienced tragedy or illness and she wasn’t able to provide the nurturing her child needed. Even if a child experiences the loss of a mother, a wound can occur because they didn’t receive the nurturing their soul needs. If we don’t find healing, it will perpetuate itself. On a subconscious level, you will look for what you didn’t receive from your mother which can cause you to seek out unhealthy relationships. If we don’t bring mother wounds into the light, there will be no healing, and they will continue. To find out how to heal mother wounds, listen here. We often inappropriately carry the guilt and shame for our mother’s inappropriate behavior. Your actions will tell you what you believe. Our emotions are the outward manifestation of the thoughts we believe, and our emotions largely govern our behavior. So, we need to pay attention to the thoughts we believe. Father wounds often result in difficulty relating to our Heavenly Father, but mother wounds can result in difficulty relating to the Holy Spirit. We have to detach from our mother to attach to the true vine by forgiving our mothers. One of the most loving things we can do is to love someone where they are despite their faults. If you experience healing in this area, or any other area, do not be surprised if you struggle in this area again because the enemy of our soul knows where our weaknesses are and will always go back there first to try to interfere before trying someplace else.   Scripture References:   Psalm 127:10“Even if my father and mother abandon me, …the Lord will hold me close. Romans 11:17 “But some of these branches from Abraham’s tree—some of the people of Israel—have been broken off. And you Gentiles, who were branches from a wild olive tree, have been grafted in. So now you also receive the blessing God has promised Abraham and his children, sharing in the rich nourishment from the root of God’s special olive tree.” John 14: 16-18“And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Advocate,[ who will never leave you.  He is the Holy Spirit, who leads into all truth. ….. No, I will not abandon you as orphans—I will come to you.”   Recommended Resources:   “Brave Heart: A Nine-Week Study on Joshua (Nourish Bible Study Series)” by Aliene G. Thompson “The Jewish Gospel of John” byEli Lizorkin-Eyzenberg “Mothers Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters” bySusan Forward and Donna Frazier Glynn https://drmichellebengtson.com/dear-younger-mother-20-lessons-i-learned-to-encourage-you/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/motherhood-the-hardest-most-wonderful-job/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/dear-mom-part-1/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/dear-mom-part-2/ “Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award “Hope Prevails Bible Study” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award     Social Media Links for Host and Guest:   Stay connected with Aliene Thompson:   Website: https://treasuredministries.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Treasured.Ministries/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alienethompson 21 Day Challenge: https://www.nourishbiblestudymethod.com/     For more hope, stay connected with Dr. Bengtson at:   To order Hope Prevails: https://drmichellebengtson.com/hope-prevails-book/ Website: https://drmichellebengtson.com/ Blog: https://drmichellebengtson.com/blog/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrMichelleBengtson Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrMBengtson (@DrMBengtson) LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmichellebengtson/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmichellebengtson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drbhopeprevails/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MichelleBengtson Radio Show Host: http://graceandtruthradio.world/shows/your-hope-filled-perspective/   Air Date: ­­­­­­­May 6, 2019   Guest: Aliene Thompson, author of the Nourish Bible Study Series, creator of the Nourish Bible Study Method and founder of Treasured Ministries. Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Episode Summary:   Have you ever struggled with worry, fear, anxiety, a lack of courage, or wondering about God’s purpose for your life and wonder how to be courageous? If so, this episode is the perfect show for you. Whether you’re facing struggles with singleness, the mounting challenges of marriage and motherhood, health issues, a financial crisis—God has equipped you to walk in freedom and confidence as you abide in Him, strengthened by His power and provision.   In this episode we are going to be talking to LaTan Roland Murphy, author of “Courageous Women of the Bible,” as she shares from her own personal experience how to be courageous. She shares how humility is a key to courage.    Quotables from the episode:   If you ever struggled with worry, fear, anxiety, a lack of courage, or wondering about God’s purpose for your life and wonder how to be courageous, you’ll want to listen to this episode. We must stand on the truth of God’s word in order to be courageous. We can be our own worst enemy and best enemy, which is a double-edged sword we end up using against ourselves. When God’s word becomes our double edge sword, it gives him so much room to carve away all the things we don’t want to be weighed down with, so we can live victoriously and courageously. Hope requires waiting and waiting requires courage. We can rest in knowing that God is in the middle of all the circumstances we face, He’s still at work, and He has a good ending. Courage is the pure grit that helps us to press in even when we are most fearful. It keeps us moving, living, loving, and pursuing. We need a Godly confidence. As we take in Christ, He reshapes us. We are often full of fear, but wear a mask, and pretend to be something we aren’t. If you want to have what others have, you have to be willing to do what they did to get there. Sometimes, if we get an instantaneous miracle, we forget what God did, but if we have to participate in it, it makes more of a lasting impression and change in our heart. When we have nothing but the word of God we have all we need. So often we want to be in control, but if we would release our need to control to God, then we can realize our dependence on a big God. God doesn’t need to use us, but we get a blessing because we make ourselves available to be used by Him. When we are one on one with Him, we get to partner with the almighty in his supernatural strength. Never stop praying. Talk with Jesus all day long. Fellowship with the One who has the answers when we don’t have all the answers. Scripture says out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speak which means when we get bumped by life’s pressures, that’s what’s going to come out of us. It’s hard to be courageous when we are holding on to worry, fear, and anxiety. If we would give Him control, the peace of God comes and then we can be courageous by trusting Him.   Scripture References: “Be strong and of good courage, do not fear nor be afraid of them; for the LORD your God, He is the One who goes with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you.” (Deuteronomy 31:6 God is near to the brokenhearted and rescues the crushed in spirit. (Psalm 34:18) Jesus prays for us. (John 17:20-23) I promise you what I promised Moses: "Wherever you set foot, you will be on land I have given you ... No one will be able to stand against you as long as you live. For I will be with you as I was with Moses. I will not fail you or abandon you. Be strong and courageous, for you are the one who will lead these people to possess all the land I swore to their ancestors I would give them. Be strong and very courageous ... Study this Book of Instruction continually. Meditate on it day and night so you will be sure to obey everything written in it. Only then will you prosper and succeed in all you do. This is my command—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go." (Joshua 1:3-9)     Recommended Resources:   “Courageous Women of the Bible: Leaving Behind Fear and Insecurity for a Life of Confidence and Freedom.” By LaTan Roland Murphy “Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award “Hope Prevails Bible Study” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award   Social Media Links for Host and Guest:   Stay connected with LaTan Roland Murphy:   Website: http://latanmurphy.com/ Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/latan.murphy.9 Twitter: https://twitter.com/LaTanM Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/latanmurphy/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/Latanmurphy/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/la-tan-roland-murphy-a7346a54/   For more hope, stay connected with Dr. Bengtson at:   To order Hope Prevails: https://drmichellebengtson.com/hope-prevails-book/ Website: https://drmichellebengtson.com/ Blog: https://drmichellebengtson.com/blog/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrMichelleBengtson Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrMBengtson (@DrMBengtson) LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmichellebengtson/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmichellebengtson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drbhopeprevails/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MichelleBengtson Radio Show Host: http://graceandtruthradio.world/shows/your-hope-filled-perspective/   Air Date: ­­­­­­­May 13, 2019   Guest: LaTan Roland Murphy, Event Speaker, Vocalist, Freelance Writer.  Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Episode Summary:   With summer on its way, you only have to check out at the grocery store to read story after story about how to achieve the perfect bikini body. Comparison is the thief of joy, so looking at those perfect models only serves to make us feel inferior, inadequate, and unworthy. In this episode, we’re discussing the real root behind body image issues, and how to stop comparing yourself to others.   If you’ve ever found yourself comparing your looks or your abilities or your accomplishments, to others, you aren’t alone, and today is the perfect show for you. Today we’re going to be talking about the trap of comparison and how we can find hope despite all the shortcomings we see in ourselves.   In today’s episode, we’re going to talk with Heather Creekmore, author of “Compared to Who: A Proven Path to Improve Your Body Image”. She shares several tips that she has learned for how to stop comparing yourself to others, and helps us understand where to shift our focus and why, as a key to eliminating comparison and body image issues.     Quotables from the episode:   Stop comparing and start living. Listen how, here. If you ever compare yourself to others, or struggle with body image issues, and want to know how to stop comparing yourself to others, this is an episode you’re going to want to listen to. We as a culture are trained to believe that body image issues are really about our body, but that just isn’t true. We fall for the lie that if we just looked different, we would feel different. The truth is, beauty doesn’t give us freedom, beauty doesn’t give us perfect lives. Only Jesus saves. Body image issues are really an idol. It’s a misplaced worship issue…an idolatry issue. A daily exercise of confession and repentance brings freedom. So every day it’s a matter of saying, “No, I am not going to bow down to the idol of the mirror or the scale anymore.” Comparison feeds body image issues. We look around at others, and compare our imperfections to what we see as perfection in others. Comparison and body image issues often start in elementary school or by middle school or high school where we start looking around at others and realizing we are shaped differently than them. Beauty is subjective and we all have different ideals of what the most beautiful person looks like. That subjectivity makes the goal of trying to look like them elusive. The first step in breaking free of body image issues is seeing that idol, and recognizing it for what it is. Rather than looking in the mirror and trying to find something you like about yourself, tilt the mirror up so that rather than focusing on yourself, you see a reflection of Jesus. The answer to body image issues isn’t loving yourself more. The answer is loving Jesus more. The greatest compliment is when people say they can see Jesus in me. Our God is a God of order, of priorities. He does things in a specific order for a specific reason. We need to figure out where our priorities line up with His. We all have a sin nature. But there is therefore now no condemnation for those of us who are in Christ Jesus. But He wants us to address our sin so we can have hope, joy, and peace. Pay attention to what you are feeding your eyes! That can stir up envy, jealousy, low self-esteem in your heart. Let’s remember to seek to be more like Jesus, rather than comparing ourselves to others.   Scripture References:   Galatians 6:4-5 “Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else. For we are each responsible for our own conduct.” 1 John 1:9 “But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness.” Romans 8:1 “But there is therefore now no condemnation for those of us who are in Christ Jesus.” 1 Corinthians 11:1 says, “Be imitators of me, as I am of Christ.”     Recommended Resources:   “Compared to Who: A Proven Path to Improve Your Body Image” “Counterfeit Gods” by Timothy Keller “The Freedom of Self-Forgetfulness” by Timothy Keller https://drmichellebengtson.com/dont-let-comparison-steal-your-joy/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/4-steps-toward-conquering-comparison/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/comparison-lies/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/sting-of-comparison/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/how-to-overcome-workplace-comparison/ “Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award “Hope Prevails Bible Study” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award     Social Media Links for Host and Guest:   Connect with Heather Creekmore:   Blog: https://comparedtowho.me/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/comparedtowho/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HeatherCreekmoreblog/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ComparedtoWho Quiz: https://comparedtowho.me/follow-christian-body-image-help/   For more hope, stay connected with Dr. Bengtson at:   To order Hope Prevails: https://drmichellebengtson.com/hope-prevails-book/ Website: https://drmichellebengtson.com/ Blog: https://drmichellebengtson.com/blog/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrMichelleBengtson Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrMBengtson (@DrMBengtson) LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmichellebengtson/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmichellebengtson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drbhopeprevails/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MichelleBengtson Radio Show Host: http://graceandtruthradio.world/shows/your-hope-filled-perspective/   Air Date: May 20, 2019 (week 21)   Guest: Heather Creekmore, author of Compared to Who? Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Episode Summary:   Let’s face it, parenting teens can be a trying time. We all want to know how to parent teenagers effectively. If you are a parent of teens, or even of young children who will become teens, and want to effectively guide them rather than managing them, today is the perfect show for you. In this episode, we will be talking with Connie Albers, author of “Parenting Beyond the Rules: Raising Teens with Confidence & Joy.”   Today we are going to be talking about the high calling of parenting. After 30 years of parenting five children and 20 years of working with teens, Connie has witnessed the negative impact of well-intentioned but misguided parenting styles, all focused on managing teens rather than guiding them. Connie prefers to raise a teen according to his or her strengths, talents, and personality type in a way that will equip the teen to manage life. In this episode, Connie shares with us how to parent teenagers with confidence and joy.   Connie believes that the teen years are not something to dread. This critical season of our children learning to become adults can be filled with joy and rich relationship by parenting beyond the rules.   Quotables from the episode:   If you’ve ever wondered how to parent teenagers with confidence and joy, you’ll want to listen to this episode of Your Hope Filled Perspective with Dr. Michelle Bengtson. We should strive to guide our teens, rather than manage them. The home is one of the best and hardest places to make disciples. Connie suggests raising teens according to their strengths, talents, and personality types in a way that will equip our teens to manage life. Kids still need our guidance, even if they don’t think they do. So often, parents don’t want to parent—they want to be their child’s friend. If you will parent now, you can be your child’s friend later, but if you are your child’s friend now, they will grow to resent you. Start by getting to know your teen’s world. It is much different than the world the parents grew up in. Come alongside your child and help them find an area they are passionate about. If we don’t let our teens stumble and fall when they are within the safe confines of our home, they will stumble and fall after they’ve left the nest and they won’t know how to manage it. Parents are so naturally good at enforcing rules. But sometimes we have to parent beyond the rules. As your child grows and matures, you can begin adjusting the rules. Pray, step back and start listening more to your child, start monitoring your mouth, and ask the Lord to help you discern what your child is trying to communicate to you. Trust the Lord to give you the wisdom and insight you need to either back off or to approach that child in a different way. It’s always too soon to give up. It is never too late!   Scripture References:   “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:4) “So do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will care for itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own” (Matthew 6:34) “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6).   Recommended Resources: “Parenting Beyond the Rules: Raising Teens w Confidence & Joy” by Connie Albers Strengths Explorer https://drmichellebengtson.com/sending-a-child-out/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/ways-teach-kids-show-respect/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/our-children-belong-to-god/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/trusting-children-to-fathers-care/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/8-simple-prayers-to-pray-daily-for-our-children/ “Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award “Hope Prevails Bible Study” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award     Social Media Links for Host and Guest:   Stay connected with Connie Albers:   Website: https://conniealbers.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ConnieAlbers.Author Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ConnieAlbers/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ConnieLAlbers LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/conniealbers/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ConnieLAlbers/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCR3j1OUCfZqwAb59xVTrmXA   For more hope, stay connected with Dr. Bengtson at:   To order Hope Prevails: https://drmichellebengtson.com/hope-prevails-book/ Website: https://drmichellebengtson.com/ Blog: https://drmichellebengtson.com/blog/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrMichelleBengtson Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrMBengtson (@DrMBengtson) LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmichellebengtson/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmichellebengtson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drbhopeprevails/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MichelleBengtson Radio Show Host: http://graceandtruthradio.world/shows/your-hope-filled-perspective/   Air Date: May 27, 2019   Guest: Connie Albers, author and popular speaker. Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Episode Summary:   If you have lost a spouse and are now widowed, or you have a friend who is a new widow, then today is the perfect show for you. We’re going to talk about what it’s like to become a widow or widower, how to help a grieving widow, and how to support a widow in such a trying time.   Seven years ago, Lisa Appelo went to bed happily married to her high school sweetheart and woke up a widow and single mom of seven. As she navigated grief and shepherded her children through their own grief, God not only mended her broken heart but reshaped it. Before this happened to her, she didn’t know how to help a grieving widow, but now she shares from her experience to help us understand how to help a widow who is grieving.   In this episode, we are going to discuss what it’s like to unexpectedly become a widow.  Lisa shared from her experience how to help a grieving widow. We discuss what to say or do that is helpful, as well as things to avoid saying because they aren’t helpful and may, in fact, be hurtful. And we also discuss things a widow can do to help themselves during the grief process.   Quotables from the episode:   If you have lost a spouse and are now widowed, or you have a friend who is a new widow, then today is the perfect show for you. If you want to know how to help a grieving widow, then I’d encourage you to listen to this episode. We will ALL need this information at some point in our lives. Sometimes the hardest part after the death of a spouse is the loss of a future together. There are no more plans or dreams or time together. Nobody ever teaches us how to grieve. It takes us by surprise, and everyone’s experience is a little different. Two things anchored us during the grief process: getting away alone and reading the Bible, and keeping a gratitude journal of the things I saw God do for us and around us. God does not take the pain away from us, but He is present with us in the hard times. The second year, in many ways, is harder than the first year after a spouse dies because by then the fog has lifted. One of the hardest aspects of grief is the loneliness we experience. The person we most want to share life with is gone. Grief is a deep loss that we will never get over. When you have a grieving friend, show up and be present. Don’t wait for them to call you and ask for help. Say “I love you,” “I’m praying for you,” “I’m here for you,” “I’m so very sorry for your loss,” and “How can I pray specifically for you?” Follow the Holy Spirit’s prompting and do things to help without being asked. Send a text during the day, take their children out with yours, mow their lawn, take their car for its annual inspection, etc. Others’ words can’t change anything, but God’s Word can change everything. When you have a grieving friend, be careful of saying “I understand how you feel” because everyone’s experience is different from yours. When someone is grieving and crushed in spirit, we need to be okay with just sitting with them and letting them lament. Job’s friends came and sat with him in silence in his grief. They didn’t get in trouble until they started talking and hypothesizing about why God allowed him to experience such hardship.   Key Scriptures:   James 1:27 “Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father means caring for orphans and widows in their distress and refusing to let the world corrupt you.” Psalm 68:5 “Father to the fatherless, defender of widows-this is God, whose dwelling is holy.” 1 Timothy 5:5 “The widow who is really in need and left all alone puts her hope in God and continues night and day to pray and to ask God for help.”   Recommended Resources:   “A Grace Revealed: How God Redeems the Story of Your Life” by Jerry Sittser “A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows through Loss” by Jerry Sittser “Widowed: When Death Sucks the Life Out of You” by Fran Geiger Joslin “Countdown to Christmas; Unwrap the Christmas Story with Your Family in 15 Days” by Lisa Appelo https://drmichellebengtson.com/grieve-well/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/is-it-grief-or-depression/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/15-tips-to-survive-grief/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/truths-to-remember-when-it-feels-like-life-is-falling-apart/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/ask-dr-b-helping-the-grieving-at-christmas/ “Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award “Hope Prevails Bible Study” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award     Social Media Links for Host and Guest:   Stay connected with Lisa Appelo   Website: https://lisaappelo.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/trueandfaithful Twitter: https://twitter.com/AppeloLisa Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisaappelo/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/appelo9/   For more hope, stay connected with Dr. Bengtson at:   To order Hope Prevails: https://drmichellebengtson.com/hope-prevails-book/ Website: https://drmichellebengtson.com/ Blog: https://drmichellebengtson.com/blog/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrMichelleBengtson Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrMBengtson (@DrMBengtson) LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmichellebengtson/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmichellebengtson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drbhopeprevails/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MichelleBengtson Radio Show Host: http://graceandtruthradio.world/shows/your-hope-filled-perspective/   Air Date: June 3, 2019   Guest: Lisa Appelo, Bible teacher, writer, speaker on faith in the hard & real hope. Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Episode Summary:   Recently, close to Mother’s Day, we aired an episode about overcoming Mother Wounds. We received very positive feedback about that episode, and felt that as we near Father’s Day, knowing that can be a painful day for many, that we should also have an episode about the impact of being fatherless and experiencing Father Wounds.   If you have been left fatherless, or have ever felt wounded by your earthly father, or felt that your relationship with your earthly father has potentially negatively impacted your relationship with your Heavenly Father, then today is the perfect show for you. You don’t have to be fatherless to experience father wounds.   Today I’m talking with my friend, Lisa Burkhardt Worley, author of The Only Father I Ever Knew: How a Fatherless Child Finally Found True Love. In this episode, Lisa shared her experience of living fatherless from birth, and how she came to realize the need to heal the resulting father wounds that ensued. Lisa shared how she came to experience a relationship with God, her heavenly father, and begin to heal the wound that began when she was left fatherless at birth.   Lisa and I talked about the impact of being fatherless on our personality and our behavior, and how we interact with others. We also talked about some ways to begin the healing process.   Quotables from the episode:   If you have ever felt wounded by your earthly father, or felt that your relationship with your earthly father has potentially negatively impacted your relationship with your Heavenly Father, then today is the episode for you. A father wound can occur when a relationship with a father was not all God intended it to be; whether from an absent father, an abusive father, or even a father who was physically present but not emotionally present. A father speaks into your self-esteem. The father is so important to a child’s well-being. When someone is fatherless, they often struggle with self-esteem, and often search elsewhere for the love of a father figure. Father wounds can occur to boys or girls, men or women. The Heavenly Father will pursue us. Sometimes we say yes, and sometimes we run the other direction. The decision is ours. God has a heart for the fatherless. He doesn’t want you to feel alone. But we have to be open to Him stepping into that role of father for us. We can tell God the Father anything we want to. There is nothing hidden in His sight. We cannot equate God the Father to our earthly fathers. Many think of God the Father as distant. But He is our Abba Daddy who views us as His child. He wants an intimate relationship with Him. If our earthly father was abusive, we think of God as a harsh God. If our earthly father was absent, leaving us fatherless, we think of God as a distant God. But in actuality, He pursues us through His word, through other people. Search the Bible to see what the Word says about God the Father. He is beyond our comprehension. He has such a deep love for us that it takes God’s power to be able to appreciate how great it is (Eph. 3). God, out of his love for us, gave mankind free will. That’s the way it is with our earthly fathers who wrong us. Wounded people wound people. Sometimes we need to look to see what kind of a childhood our fathers had, because it can influence how they father us. If we will forgive our earthly father, it releases something inside us so that we can accept the love of the Heavenly Father. It’s never too late to get to know your heavenly father. God loves you with a perfect, never-ending love. He loves you so much that He gave His only son so that if we accept His gift, we can live with Him and be loved on forever for eternity, with a perfect love.     Scripture References:   Psalm 68:5 “Father to the fatherless, defender of widows—this is God, whose dwelling is holy.” 1 John 3:1 “See how very much our Father loves us, for he calls us his children, and that is what we are! But the people who belong to this world don’t recognize that we are God’s children because they don’t know him.” Psalm 146:3-5 “Don’t put your confidence in powerful people; there is no help for you there. When they breathe their last, they return to the earth, and all their plans die with them. But joyful are those who have the God of Israel as their helper, whose hope is in the Lord their God.”     Recommended Resources:   The Only Father I Ever Knew: How a Fatherless Child Finally Found True Love by Lisa Burkhardt Worley Knowing the Father: A Six-Week Bible Study to Understand God’s Father-Like Attributes by Lisa Burkhardt Worley Pearls of Promise: A Devotional Designed to Reassure You of God’s Love by Lisa Burkhardt Worley https://drmichellebengtson.com/words-from-a-loving-father/ The Overcoming Life by Jimmy Evans “Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award “Hope Prevails Bible Study” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award     Social Media Links for Host and Guest:   Stay connected with Lisa Burkhardt Worley:   Website: pearlsofpromiseministries.com Website: atimetodream.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PearlsOfPromiseMinistries/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/pearlsofpromise   For more hope, stay connected with Dr. Bengtson at:   To order Hope Prevails: https://drmichellebengtson.com/hope-prevails-book/ Website: https://drmichellebengtson.com/ Blog: https://drmichellebengtson.com/blog/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrMichelleBengtson Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrMBengtson (@DrMBengtson) LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmichellebengtson/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmichellebengtson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drbhopeprevails/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MichelleBengtson Radio Show Host: http://graceandtruthradio.world/shows/your-hope-filled-perspective/   Air Date: June 10, 2019   Guest: Lisa Burkhardt Worley, Author, Speaker, Radio Show Host  Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.