Why Trying to Figure Everything Out, Stresses You Out (And What to Do Instead) #206

April 06, 2026
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Why does trying to figure everything out leave you feeling more stressed?

When life feels uncertain, it’s natural to want to solve things — to plan ahead, think through every possibility, and make sure everything will be okay. But what if that constant effort to “figure it all out” is actually what’s exhausting you?

In this episode, Bonnie shares a personal story that reveals why our instinct to “figure everything out” can actually work against our peace—and what we truly need instead in seasons of uncertainty. 



You’ll discover why stress increases when we try to solve what can’t be resolved right away, and how God invites us to receive grace in the present moment instead. Bonnie also shares a simple, science-supported soul care practice that can calm your nervous system, interrupt stress loops, and help you return to peace.

If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, mentally exhausted, or stuck trying to figure everything out, this episode will help you slow down, release the pressure, and care for your soul right where you are.

Key Takeaways

Why trying to figure everything out increases stress
How new beginnings need gentleness, not pressure

What science says about rumination and emotional stress

How shifting to the present moment calms your body and mind

A simple practice to interrupt stress loops and return to peace

Breath Prayer

Inhale: Let us draw near with confidence
Exhale: to receive grace in my time of need

Scripture
“Therefore let us draw near with confidence to the throne of grace, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” Heb.4:16

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Bonnie Gray is the author of Finding Spiritual Whitespace and Whispers of Rest. An inspirational speaker and retreat leader, she has touched thousands of lives through storytelling, visual arts, nature, prayer and meditation. Bonnie’s writing is featured at Relevant Magazine, (in)courage, and Christianity Today. She lives in California with her husband and their two sons.
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