Ep. 119 Let Them… or Let HIM? A Biblical Take on Mel Robbins’ Viral Self-Help Theory
Mel Robbins’ Let Them philosophy has taken the self-help world by storm. But is it really the key to peace and freedom? Or is there something deeper—something better—that God calls us to instead?
In today’s episode, we break down where Let Them aligns with biblical wisdom… and where it misses the mark. Through real-life experiences and scriptural truths, we explore why true peace doesn’t come from just “letting them” but from fully surrendering to Him.
We also share how embracing God’s guidance—not just detachment—was the key to breaking free from alcohol and finding lasting transformation.
What You’ll Learn:-
Why secular self-help can only take you so far – Letting go sounds freeing, but true freedom comes from surrendering to God, not just stepping back.
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The danger of 'following your heart' – Culture says to trust your feelings, but Scripture reminds us that the heart can be deceptive (Jeremiah 17:9).
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How sobriety and faith intersect – Relying on mindset shifts alone can keep you stuck, while Jesus offers true renewal.
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Forgiveness vs. detachment – Instead of just cutting people loose, Jesus calls us to a higher standard: forgiveness, love, and grace.
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Navigating relationships through faith – Healthy boundaries and biblical grace can coexist—here’s how to strike that balance.
If you’ve ever felt exhausted from trying to control people, situations, or outcomes—this episode is for you. True peace isn’t found in letting go… it’s found in letting Him lead.
Press play, take a deep breath, and let’s dive in.
Note: The Let Them language was first attributed to Cassie Phillips.
Christy’s Substack: Why Let Them Misses The Mark – And Letting God Lead Changes Everything
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Christy, a former lawyer with a background in law, business, and politics, experienced radical renewal after choosing sobriety. Now a senior sobriety coach and author of Love Life Sober (Penguin Random House), she helps women renew their minds and rediscover joy through a powerful blend of faith, neuroscience, and practical tools.
Meade, a former pharmaceutical rep and stay-at-home mom, looked like she had it all together—but felt stuck in a nightly-ish wine habit. Once she realized the issue was less about drinking and more about thinking, everything changed. Now a senior certified coach and creator of the Change-Your-Thinking-to-Change-Your-Drinking method and The Missing P.E.A.C.E. framework, Meade helps women ditch shame, reclaim purpose, and live with peace and joy.
Together, we create loving, Spirit-led spaces where women can explore their relationship with alcohol, renew their minds, and pursue the freedom they were made for.
Christy lives in Surrey, England; Meade outside Atlanta. We're just two women who surrendered our wine glasses, found something far better in Jesus, and now have the joy of helping others do the same.
