Why We Quit Doing the Moderation Math
Moderating alcohol is exhausting. Let’s talk about what’s possible when you stop playing the game.
In this listener-favorite list-style episode, we share the 10 best things about never having to moderate alcohol again, and trust us, it’s more freeing than you think.
From the relentless mental gymnastics (“Should I? Shouldn’t I?”) to the emotional fallout of breaking yet another promise to yourself, moderation often becomes more of a burden than a solution. So what happens when you stop trying to control your drinking and start living in true freedom?
Spoiler alert: more headspace, less shame, deeper joy, better boundaries, and a whole lot more time for Jesus (and wildflowers ).
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- Why moderation takes more time, energy, and mental space than we realize
- The sneaky ways alcohol was stealing our joy—even in “small” amounts
- How living alcohol-free helps us show up more fully as moms, wives, and women of faith
- What shifts when you no longer have to plan, justify, or recover from drinking
- The role of curiosity, compassion, and truth in breaking the cycle
- How ditching moderation leads to deeper peace, clearer boundaries, and surprising laughter
🎧 Love our list-style episodes? Go back and listen to:
- Ep 15: The 10 Best Things About Never Having to Drink Again
- Ep 32: 10 Things We No Longer Spend Money On
- Ep 74: 10 Things We Wish Someone Had Told Us the First Year
- Ep 89: 10 Reasons Living Alcohol-Free Has Made Us More Confident
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Christy, a former lawyer with a background in law, business, and politics, experienced radical renewal after choosing sobriety. Now a senior sobriety coach and author of Love Life Sober (Penguin Random House), she helps women renew their minds and rediscover joy through a powerful blend of faith, neuroscience, and practical tools.
Meade, a former pharmaceutical rep and stay-at-home mom, looked like she had it all together—but felt stuck in a nightly-ish wine habit. Once she realized the issue was less about drinking and more about thinking, everything changed. Now a senior certified coach and creator of the Change-Your-Thinking-to-Change-Your-Drinking method and The Missing P.E.A.C.E. framework, Meade helps women ditch shame, reclaim purpose, and live with peace and joy.
Together, we create loving, Spirit-led spaces where women can explore their relationship with alcohol, renew their minds, and pursue the freedom they were made for.
Christy lives in Surrey, England; Meade outside Atlanta. We're just two women who surrendered our wine glasses, found something far better in Jesus, and now have the joy of helping others do the same.
