Don’t Try This Alone: Finding Your Real Community | Toni Collier
If you’ve been trying to quit drinking, hide your struggles, or heal on your own, this conversation will meet you right where you are. In this episode, Christy sits down with Toni Collier to talk about shame, vulnerability, and why true healing happens in safe, honest community—not isolation.
In this deeply honest and Spirit-led conversation, Toni shares her story of betrayal, trauma, and rebuilding her life through radical honesty and connection. From being the “strong one” to finally admitting she couldn’t do it alone, this episode is a powerful reminder that freedom isn’t found in hiding—it’s found in being seen.
Together, they unpack why so many women stay stuck in cycles of shame (including alcohol use), how the enemy uses isolation to keep us trapped, and what it actually looks like to step into healing with God and other people.
If you’ve ever felt like you should be able to “fix this on your own”… babe, this episode will shift something deep.
💭 If you’ve ever thought…
“I should be able to handle this myself.”
“I don’t want anyone to know how bad it really is.”
“I feel ashamed of my drinking (or coping habits).”
“I’ve been hurt by people… I don’t trust community.”
Babe, this episode is for you 🩷
• What You’ll Learn In This Episode
• Why shame thrives in isolation and loses power when it’s brought into the light
• The difference between trying to heal alone vs. healing in safe, trusted community
• How Toni’s story of betrayal and trauma revealed her need for people—not just strength
• Why being the “strong one” can actually keep you stuck longer
• How alcohol and other coping mechanisms can quietly become a response to pain and stress
• Why moderation can become a trap and what real freedom can look like instead
• The importance of confessional community and being known without judgment
• How to find safe people and build community—even if you’ve been hurt before
• Why healing happens in circles, not rows (and how to stop just consuming and start connecting)
• A practical, honest look at what it takes to stop hiding and start healing
Links & Resources
Toni’s Book: Don’t Try This Alone
Follow Toni:
Join the Love Life Sober Community
https://lovelifesober.co.uk/community
Join the 40-Day Alcohol Fast
https://lovelifesober.co.uk/the-fast
Order Christy’s book, Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind
https://lovelifesober.co.uk/book
Connect on Instagram: @lovelifesoberwithchristy
Subscribe on YouTube — Come hang with us!
⚠️ Disclaimer
The creators, hosts, and producers of the Love Life Sober podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological, or professional advice nor intend for the podcast or any Love Life Sober communication to substitute for such. Views and opinions expressed in any referenced or linked resources do not necessarily reflect those of the Love Life Sober team or guests.
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Christy found her true calling when she gave up alcohol and discovered a passion for helping women do the same. She has since coached hundreds of women across the US and UK as a highly trained senior sobriety coach, blending neuroscience, faith, and practical tools to help clients break free from alcohol and live with purpose.
She is the author of the best-selling Love Life Sober: A 40-Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind, and the host of the Love Life Sober podcast. Christy lives in Sussex, England, with her husband, their two teenagers, Ella and Carter, and their cavapoo, Copper.
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