Who Are You Becoming? The Slow Work of Real Transformation

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Who are you becoming beneath the surface of your life?

We live in a culture that rewards appearing mature, authentic, and put together. But real spiritual transformation is slower and deeper. It asks us to pay attention to the parts of ourselves we might rather avoid and to allow God to form us from the inside out.

In this conversation, Gem talks with therapist, spiritual director, and author Chuck DeGroat about his new book, Who You’re Becoming: The Slow and Courageous Work of Cultivating Character in a Narcissistic Age.

Together they explore performative authenticity, the pressure to appear more formed than we are, the impact of our attention economy, and what it means to become a more grounded and whole person.

They also talk about why spiritual formation can’t be rushed, and how to remain present to others without absorbing their anxiety

If you’ve ever felt discouraged by how slowly you seem to be changing, this conversation offers a hopeful invitation: you don’t have to rush your becoming.

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Meet Your Hosts
Alan Fadling (MDiv) is a founding partner of Unhurried Living, Inc. in Mission Viejo, CA. He writes and speaks as an expert in the challenge of hurry in contemporary life and work and how to overcome it.

Alan consults and coaches leaders and their organizations in the U.S. and around the world, helping them work towards long-term productivity that lasts rather than settling for quick fixes that don’t. He is the award-winning author of five books, including An Unhurried Life, An Unhurried Leader, and A Non-Anxious Life.
Gem Fadling, CLC, is a founding partner of Unhurried Living. She is a trained Spiritual Director and a Certified Life Coach who trains people at the intersection of spiritual leadership and soul care.

Gem is the co-host of the Unhurried Living Podcast as well as the author of Hold That Thought and co-author of What Does Your Soul Love? Her work has appeared in Propel Women and Our Daily Bread.
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