Rebuilding Us: Marriage Podcast
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Rebuilding Us: Marriage Podcast

Dana Che

Welcome to "Rebuilding Us,” a marriage podcast helping to restore intimacy and renew hope in your relationship. Join marriage coach Dana Che on an episodic adventure and explore the transformative journey of rebuilding trust, commitment, and connection by reigniting love through faith-based principles.


Each episode offers effective relationship strategies, heartfelt stories, and uplifting messages of hope, aimed at inspiring couples to cultivate lasting joy, intimacy, and fulfillment in their marriage. No Christian clichés over here! Dana's tell-it-like-it-is yet warm humor will endear you to come back every single week.


The first letter in "us" is "u," so "rebuilding us" is also about rebuilding u (you). Whether you're seeking reconciliation, restoration, or simply looking to enrich your relationship, 'Rebuilding Us' is here to support you on your journey to a thriving and resilient marriage grounded in grace and godly guidance."


Let the rebuild begin!


New episodes drop every Tuesday & Friday. Subscribe today so you don't miss a single one!

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Discovering Your Spouse Has Been Unfaithful: Now What? [Affair- Proof]
April 16, 2024 - 26 min
As you deal with the shock of discovering your spouse’s infidelity, it can feel like a collision with a semi-truck, leaving you paralyzed, numb, and drowning in a sea of emotions. You have been traumatized. Your initial response to such devastating news can be paralyzing, leaving you grappling with disbelief, pain, and confusion. It’s a sensitive yet profoundly significant topic – navigating the aftermath of discovering a partner’s infidelity. Let’s unravel the emotional journey, practical steps, and the pathway to healing after the shattering revelation of a spouse’s unfaithfulness. Respond, Don’t React: In the midst of this emotional turbulence, it’s better to embrace a strategic approach – responding, not reacting. The distinction between these two responses will be critical as you navigate in the storm. Impulsively reacting, no matter how temporarily satisfying it may seem, only compounds the situation. Instead, choosing a thoughtful and intentional response lays the groundwork for healing and restoration. Listen as I share some suggestions to help accelerate the healing process.  Find the full show notes at rebuildinguspodcast.com.    Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Download your “Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict” guide here.  Book suggestion: Good Grief by Granger Westberg Ep. 229: Hubby Talks: What Caused Infidelity in Our Marriage [Affair-Proof]   **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Q & A: I Feel Nothing For My Spouse & We're Living Separate Lives
April 12, 2024 - 12 min
We're addressing a listener's question about having no feelings for her husband anymore. She still has some desire to rebuild her marriage despite feeling empty and detached. If you've ever felt similarly about your spouse, you, too, will benefit from what I share. I explain how to "reignite" the loving feelings for your spouse with three responses:  feelings, forgiveness, and faith. The fact is that feelings are not final, and they are fickle. They are precious but not the priority. Instead of being led by our feelings, there are healthier and more effective ways to handle our lack of feelings toward our spouse. Listen in to learn the pathway forward.  Resources Mentioned in this Episode: 🔗Related Episode: #80: Feelings Aren't Forever  🔗 Submit your relationship questions 🔗 Get your free "Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict" 🔗 Interested in marriage coaching? Schedule your discovery call today.   Don't miss out on insights to improve your relationships. Hit the subscribe or follow button! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
10 Warning Signs of a Cheating Spouse + 12 Digital Signs to Be Aware Of [Affair-Proof]
April 9, 2024 - 30 min
A staggering 40% of marriages will experience Infidelity at some point, Inevitably, infidelity leaves clues. Here are 10 warning signs plus 12 bonus digital red flags to be aware of that a spouse might be having an affair in person or online. It’s a hard topic to discuss, but I want you to be aware of these potential adultery indicators that may need to be addressed sooner than later. The purpose of this podcast is not to make you paranoid or suspicious of your spouse but to shed light on any deception in your marriage you may be unaware of. Remember, you can’t fix what you don’t face.  My husband, Shaun, and I shared our own story of infidelity on last week’s episode. Many of the warning signs we discussed during today’s show were present in my marriage. I’ve also witnessed these signs in the marriages of those I coach who are or have healed from infidelity. With nearly 25 years of marriage experience, I'm passionate about providing valuable insights into rebuilding relationships after infidelity and fostering open, honest conversations.   Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Download your FREE Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict  Take the “How Connected Are You” Partner Quiz Today  Episode 229: Hubby Talks: What Caused Infidelity in Our Marriage    Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Q & A: Should I Confront the Other Woman in the Affair?
April 5, 2024 - 11 min
Learning your spouse is having an affair is devastating. One of our listeners wants to know if she should confront the other woman her husband was unfaithful with. This is an honest and vulnerable question that many betrayed spouses have when they are trying to make sense of the infidelity. I am sharing my best relationship advice with this listener and hope that you, too, will find answers should you find yourself in this unfortunate situation.  Have a marriage or relationship question you want to submit for the show? Do so at rebuildinguspodcast.com/contact or send me a message on Instagram.  **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages nd relationships grow too! **  Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Hubby Talks: What Caused Infidelity in Our Marriage [Affair-Proof]
April 2, 2024 - 32 min
We're starting a new series on how to rebuild your marriage after an affair. My hubby, Shaun, and I are telling our story of what caused us to be unfaithful in our marriage, what we learned, and what safety nets we've put in place to keep another affair from happening. Christian couples are not immune to adultery, unfortunately. Most marriages have little to no boundaries, so it's no wonder couples find themselves cheating on their spouses against their good intentions.  This conversation is as real as it gets. If you want to protect your marriage from infidelity or are in the middle of trying to rebuild trust after an affair, this episode is for you.  Find the full show notes at https://rebuildinguspodcast.com.    Links Mentioned in this Episode:  Episode 3: Rebuilding Our Marriage; Rebuilding Our Trust Take the FREE "How Connected Are You" Partner Quiz    **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Q & A: How Do I Tell My Husband I Changed My Mind About Having Kids?
March 29, 2024 - 8 min
As we grow older, our desires often change. One of our listeners has changed her mind about having kids and wants to know how to tell her husband. This conversation is coming up more and more, especially with younger couples. It's one thing to decide not to have kids before getting married, but often, something changes when you see someone else's cute baby or realize your biological clock is ticking quickly.  Listen as I share my perspective on how to have a conversation with your spouse if your desire for children changes.  Submit Your Questions Have a marriage or relationship question you want to submit for the show? Do so at rebuildinguspodcast.com/contact or send me a message on Instagram.  **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Rebuilding Us Podcast Trailer
March 27, 2024 - 2 min
Welcome to the all-new "Rebuilding Us Marriage Podcast, formerly known as Real Relationship Talk.  I'm your host, Dana Che, marriage coach, and your guide on this journey to rediscovering the beauty and strength of your marriage. In a world where relationships are easily broken and discarded, this podcast is your lighthouse. All is not lost.  Join us as we explore the stories of couples who have overcome all kinds of adversity, reignited their love, and rebuilt their marriages from the ground up. Oh, and I’m not shy about my own marriage being restored from adultery. It’s why I do this podcast. If we made it, so can you. We couldn’t have made it without God on our side. His word is my guiding light. But on this podcast, we dig beyond surface-level Christian talk to see God at the center of our most messy spaces. From infidelity to intimacy struggles or just everyday marriage conflicts, we share practical tips and relevant advice to help you get unstuck and rebuild your life. Whether you're newlyweds adjusting to your new life or long-term partners seeking to reignite the flame, this podcast is for you. Together, let's embark on a journey of honest discovery, forgiveness, truth, and grace. Let's gather the tools for a thriving marriage with renewed love and unwavering commitment. The first letter in us is u, so to rebuild us, we have to rebuild you.  Subscribe to or follow the "Rebuilding Us Marriage Podcast today. Because no matter where you are, it's never too late to rediscover a resilient, renewed relationship. Get ready for the rebuild!   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Big News Alert! Say Hello to Our Podcast's New Name & Features
March 26, 2024 - 29 min
I am thrilled to share some incredibly exciting news with you. The podcast is undergoing a major rebranding to better serve our listeners and community. I am happy to introduce you to the all-new Rebuilding Us podcast! This decision came after lots of prayer, input, thoughts, more prayer, more thoughts . . . it was a process. There is significance in the naming of something. Real Relationship Talk served us well, and now, we're hitting full throttle with Rebuilding Us. As I reflect on the challenges and triumphs of my own marriage, I recognize the need to create a more intentional space where individuals and couples can reclaim the goodness in their relationships, restore what was lost, and magnify the positive aspects of their marriages. This realization propelled me to reimagine the podcast to align it with my life’s calling, as expressed in Isaiah 61:4 - a scripture that signifies a continuous, active process of rebuilding in the context of marriage. In this episode, I reveal the why behind the new name and the new features you can expect to hear beginning next week! For a full rundown on what's changing and what's not, see the show notes at rebuildinguspodcast.com. Join my e-mail list and get first dibs on news, promotions, coaching, and updates!   **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
[Sweet Repeat]: Stop Avoiding Conflict! Communicate Confidently Instead
March 22, 2024 - 36 min
We're bringing back one of your favorite conversations about conflict . . . specifically how to stop avoiding it and how to communicate confidently instead. In this encore episode, we're discussing why we avoid conflict and how our different upbringings play into this dilemma. Many people confuse peacemaking with avoiding conflict. I dispell this myth and so much more, helping you to finally step up, speak up and be heard in your relationships. Plus I'm sharing five affirmations you can say every day to help you to have more courageous conversations.This episode was from our Communication 101 series and previously aired in May of 2022. Even still, it's still one I get feedback on to this day. Find the OG show notes at realrelationshiptalk.com/96. Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Get Your FREE Conversation Starters to Bash Conflict Here Let's Connect on Instagram **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Respect, Security, and Leadership: Navigating Core Needs in Marriage
March 19, 2024 - 27 min
My hubby, Shaun, is back! We're engaging in a candid conversation about the fundamental needs of both men and women in marriage, shedding light on respect, security, and leadership within relationships. Sharing some of our personal stories and insights that can help couples foster a deeper understanding of each other's needs and strengthen their bond is what we're after.  Men can learn what women truly mean when they say they need security (it's not always what you think). Women can learn how to respect their husbands even when they disagree. Both spouses can learn what healthy leadership looks like in a marriage. This episode is one you'll want to refer to again when disagreements about needs arise.  Find the full show notes at realrelationshiptalk.com/225. Resources and Links in this Episode:  Get your FREE Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict  Learn more about my marriage and premarital coaching here   **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
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Meet Your Host
Meet Your Host
Dana Che is the founder of Thrive Relationships, where she serves as a marriage and relationship coach and host of the Rebuilding Us marriage podcast. She also serves as a preaching pastor at her church. Whether in the church or on her podcast, Dana's mission is singular: to help people rebuild their relationships through the grace and guidance of the Lord.

On Rebuilding Us, she is known for her graceful candor, humor, and her encouraging yet challenging advice. Dana holds a B.A. in communication from Regent University. She has a fierce passion for fashion and a fiercer passion for truth. She shares her life with Shaun, her loving husband of over twenty-five years, their four amazing children, and their “multi-cultural” dog in beautiful Virginia Beach, VA.

Connect with Dana:
Instagram: @mrsdanache
Website: danache.com
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