"But Jesus Drank Wine" & Other Stories That Kept Us Stuck

From the outside looking in, is your life as glossy as a magazine cover? Sure, your drinking might not have caused a lost job, a broken marriage, or landed you in jail, but do you ever get that nagging whisper in your ear saying, "Maybe life would be better without the hangovers and hangxiety"? In today’s episode, we unravel the mysteries of the alcohol use disorder spectrum and introduce you to the enigmatic 'gray area drinker.' If you feel like the label suits you, great but if you feel more like Alice lost in Booze-land, fear not, we have a compass for you. Brace yourself for a set of thought-provoking questions that will put the spotlight on whether alcohol is truly serving you or not.  So tune in, pour yourself a cup of curiosity, and let's dive into the world of 'gray area' drinking - where things are never just black and white! Connect with Meade and Christy HERE.   Learn More about Coaching with Christy  Learn More about Coaching with Meade   Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy   #getconnected #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #sobriety #alcoholfree #soberliving #alcoholfreelife #thisnakedmind  #lovelifesober #imnotsoberimfree #getconnected  #grayareadrinking #grayareadrinking #butjesusdrankwine #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #christianandsober #christianity   The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show.   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Our friend and fellow This Naked Mind coach, Karla Adkins dropped by the pod to tell us her incredible story of how drinking to cope with stress and anxiety wound her up in the hospital with a liver failure diagnosis. Karla talks about all the “jobs” that she gave alcohol and how in order to break free, she had to untangle her beliefs about whether alcohol was helping her or hurting her.    Karla tells us about what living with alcohol-related liver disease looked like and how her one doctor played a pivotal role in helping her get curious about living life without it.    Karla’s book, “And She Came Tumbling Down” is available on amazon here. You can also learn more about Karla at karlaadkins.com.   Thank you for listening! xx   Connect with Meade and Christy HERE.   Learn More about Coaching with Christy  Learn More about Coaching with Meade   Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy   #getconnected #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #sobriety #alcoholfree #soberliving #alcoholfreelife #thisnakedmind  #lovelifesober #imnotsoberimfree #getconnected  #grayareadrinking #grayareadrinking #butjesusdrankwine #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #christianandsober #christianity   The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show.   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Who hasn't returned from a vacation declaring, "I need a vacation from my vacation!"? As the season of sunshine and sizzle looms on the horizon, one of our fab BJDW listeners nudged us for the inside scoop on navigating an alcohol-free summer. In this episode, we're your trusty tour guides on your summer getaway, trekking with you from bustling airports to serene beaches, from airplane seats to hotel suites. We'll spill the secrets of how we guide our clients through these booze-soaked summer months. We’ll let you in on the magic that unfolds when you set boundaries and manage expectations for a family summer getaway. Get ready to flip the script and make this summer the best chapter of your life. After all, if your past summers have been swimming in rosé, isn't it time to dip your toes into different waters? If your holiday goals include coming home with your energy tank fully refueled and your spirit bursting with joy, then buckle up, dear listener! This episode is your passport to a revitalized and truly restorative summer vacation!   Thank you for listening! xx Connect with Meade and Christy HERE.   Learn More about Coaching with Christy  Learn More about Coaching with Meade   Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy   #getconnected #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #sobriety #alcoholfree #soberliving #alcoholfreelife #thisnakedmind  #lovelifesober #imnotsoberimfree #getconnected  #grayareadrinking #grayareadrinking #butjesusdrankwine #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #christianandsober #christianity   The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show.   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

What if your body was already ready for summer?    What would it feel like to not treat your body as a project that needed to be somehow fixed or made smaller? As we head into the summer, what would it feel like to already feel summer-body ready? On today’s episode, we welcome fellow coach and sister in Christ, Jess Connolly, author of “Breaking Free from Body Shame, Dare To Reclaim What God Has Named Good.”   We chat about what happens when we treat our bodies as projects. Constantly meeting some cultural standard of beauty means focusing on our glory instead of God’s. It also means missing out on the abundance He has for us in the here and now when we strive to reach a certain weight or size. We talk about how we can make little shifts in our thinking to embrace the good bodies God has already given us.   We also give into the question, can you be free from body shame and also want to focus on your health? Or are the two at odds with each other? And where does rest play into our picture of health?   You can follow Jess Connolly on Instagram @jessaconnolly, @breakingfreefrombodyshame and @goandtellgals and order Breaking Free From Body Shame here.   Thank you for listening! xx Connect with Meade and Christy HERE.  Learn More about Coaching with Christy  Learn More about Coaching with Meade   Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy   #getconnected #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #sobriety #alcoholfree #soberliving #alcoholfreelife #thisnakedmind  #lovelifesober #imnotsoberimfree #getconnected  #grayareadrinking #grayareadrinking #butjesusdrankwine #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #christianandsober #christianity   The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show.   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

We talk a lot about the stories around alcohol that keep us stuck here on the pod. But what we haven’t covered much yet are the stories about ourselves that are driven by shame and contribute to our “stuck” with alcohol, other unhealthy habits, tendencies and everyday addictions.    While there are tons of psychology-based resources on shame that can help us in our understanding of it, no conversation about shame is complete without the origin story of shame as told through the biblical narrative.    Where does shame come from and what is it? How does it affect us in our everyday lives? How does it affect our relationship to alcohol? And what are some practical ways for rewiring our shame narratives to walk in freedom?   Just like we do by bringing awareness to our alcohol stories, if we courageously bring awareness to the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves we can journey to truth, freedom, and peace.   For this conversation, we invited everybody’s favorite guest, Pastor David, back to the pod to walk us through it. Shame by design is an uncomfortable subject to talk about because it is used as a means of turning us away from God and others. But we aren’t afraid of the uncomfortable convos here at the BJDW pod and we hope you will find hope in what we share today. We invite you to listen along and join us in the convo over on Instagram.   *Programming note - Christy received news of a family emergency in the middle of recording this episode and had to leave in the middle of recording.    Thank you for listening! xx   Other Pastor David Episodes:  Episode 13: Did Jesus Drink Wine Or Not?  Episode 24: What is Shame?  Episode 51: Realigning with Core Values Episode 96: What does the Bible say about Moderation? Episode 104: Conquering Life’s Temptations   Join the conversation in our community at https://butjesusdrankwine.com/community. Connect with Meade and Christy HERE.   Learn More about Coaching with Christy  Learn More about Coaching with Meade   Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy   #getconnected #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #sobriety #alcoholfree #soberliving #alcoholfreelife #thisnakedmind  #lovelifesober #imnotsoberimfree #getconnected  #grayareadrinking #grayareadrinking #butjesusdrankwine #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #christianandsober #christianity   The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show.   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

We love connecting with women who are boldly and confidently living counter-culturally whether free from alcohol as a non-drinker or as followers of Jesus. Today’s guest, Kristen Dalton Wolfe, does both beautifully and it was such an honor to chat with her and hear her story.   Kristen is a mental health and life coach, motivational speaker, author, former Miss USA and leads a women's ministry called, She Gathers L.A. She’s also mom to three kiddos and lives in L.A. with her husband, Chris.   Listen along as Kristen shares how a vision and a plan to become Miss USA created a path for her in college that looked different than most — without alcohol. And then hear how (like so many of us) fitting in socially became an easy opening for alcohol to take up space in her life after achieving her goal of becoming Miss USA.    Kristen shares how easily baby compromises can end up becoming bigger compromises. And she shares some of the stories that kept her stuck, such as, “I deserve wine because I’m such a good Christian” and, “Wine is fancy and elegant and helps me relax.” Find out what prompted Kristen to finally change her relationship with alcohol and what her life has looked like since.    Finally, you won’t want to miss why Kristen says a vision and a plan are our greatest tools for living a life with intention and purpose. And be sure to catch today’s invitation for a tiny TINA (tiny new action). We loved this conversation with our beautiful new friend, Kristen, and hope that you will too!   You can connect with Kristen at kristendaltonwolfe.com and on Instagram @shegathersla, @kristenjdalton. Also be sure to grab her book The Sparkle Effect: Step into the Radiance of Your True Identity.   Connect with Meade and Christy HERE. Learn More about Coaching with Christy  Learn More about Coaching with Meade Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy Thank you for listening! xx   Our hope for you at the But Jesus Drank Wine pod is that you’ll walk away from these conversations feeling a little lighter, a little more curious and a whole lot more HOPE for finding freedom from alcohol–or whatever it is that is keeping you stuck in your B- life. Because Sister, YOU were created by our loving Father for so much more!    We can do hard things infinitely longer as long as we don’t go it alone! Head over to www.butjesusdrankwine.com to get all the details on how to connect with Meade and Christy and others. Subscribe to the mailing list, join the BJDW community and holler over on Instagram.    #getconnected #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #sobriety #alcoholfree #soberliving #alcoholfreelife #thisnakedmind  #lovelifesober #imnotsoberimfree #getconnected  #grayareadrinking #grayareadrinking #butjesusdrankwine #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #christianandsober #christianity   The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show.   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Back when we were stuck in the over-drinking cycle we had all these ideas about what it would be like to be a non-drinker. Like, people who don’t drink are judging those who do.    Turns out there are a lot of misconceptions about non-drinkers floating around that are not only not true but can be pointing to some underlying fears that may be keeping you stuck in the over-drinking cycle.   For today’s episode (just like we did in episode 15, What are the 10 best things about never having to drink again) we both came up with our lists of the most common misconceptions about non-drinkers and then we reviewed our lists live with each other in the pod studio.    Listen along as we explore: do non-drinkers secretly judge their friends who drink? Are non-drinkers anti-alcohol evangelists? Do non-drinkers feel deprived when around others who drink? Are non-drinkers anti-social and boring?   Not only might the answers surprise you but you may find yourself having an exceptionally good time listening to this – we had an exceptionally good time recording this one!    Did we leave any out? We’d love to hear from you if so. Holler at us on the 'gram or over in the But Jesus Drank Wine-free community!   Connect with Meade and Christy HERE. Learn More about Coaching with Christy  Learn More about Coaching with Meade Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy Thank you for listening! xx Our hope for you at the But Jesus Drank Wine pod is that you’ll walk away from these conversations feeling a little lighter, a little more curious and a whole lot more HOPE for finding freedom from alcohol–or whatever it is that is keeping you stuck in your B- life. Because Sister, YOU were created by our loving Father for so much more!    We can do hard things infinitely longer as long as we don’t go it alone! Head over to www.butjesusdrankwine.com to get all the details on how to connect with Meade and Christy and others. Subscribe to the mailing list, join the BJDW community and holler over on Instagram.  #getconnected #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking    The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show.   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

This week we spoke with Christy’s client Lauren all about how freedom from alcohol does not have to mean declaring we’re not drinking “forever”, instead we get to choose the role we want alcohol to play in our lives. We have a choice! Lauren tells us how putting down the sober day counter and having an instrumental growth point played a huge role in getting back in the driver’s seat of wine. Lauren bravely shares how she came off anxiety medication when she put down the wine bottle and how this has transformed her life.    We also discuss the difference between being physically dependent and emotionally dependent on alcohol and why it’s important. Lauren tells us that she realized that not drinking alcohol was actually the easy part, it was doing all the work surrounding her grief and anxiety where the work came in.    We end another powerful chat with Lauren telling us her favourite thing in her sobriety toolkit that she simply can’t live without. You’re going to want to tune in for this meaningful conversation.   Connect with Meade and Christy HERE. Learn More about Coaching with Christy  Learn More about Coaching with Meade Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy Thank you for listening! xx   Our hope for you at the But Jesus Drank Wine pod is that you’ll walk away from these conversations feeling a little lighter, a little more curious and a whole lot more HOPE for finding freedom from alcohol–or whatever it is that is keeping you stuck in your B- life. Because Sister, YOU were created by our loving Father for so much more!    We can do hard things infinitely longer as long as we don’t go it alone! Head over to www.butjesusdrankwine.com to get all the details on how to connect with Meade and Christy and others. Subscribe to the mailing list, join the BJDW community and holler over on Instagram.    #getconnected #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #sobriety #alcoholfree #soberliving #alcoholfreelife #thisnakedmind  #lovelifesober #imnotsoberimfree #getconnected  #grayareadrinking #grayareadrinking #butjesusdrankwine #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #christianandsober #christianity The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show.   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

In this week’s episode, we speak to Christy’s former client, Ashley who shares her incredible life-changing freedom from alcohol story.    Ashley talks about how an experience at eighteen years old in a nightclub changed the trajectory of her drinking. We chat about how these red-flag experiences can make us drink more to cope and how we need to teach our daughters the dangers of drinking.    Then we do a deep dive into how drinking temporarily helped Ashley numb her anxiety, “as long as I knew I had alcohol, I knew I was safe from panic” and how she overturned this closely held belief.    Ashley also bravely shares her experience in AA and why she sought out a coach to help her regain control of alcohol. This was an incredibly courageous share and we were so blessed to speak with her.   Connect with Meade and Christy HERE. Learn More about Coaching with Christy  Learn More about Coaching with Meade Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy Thank you for listening! xx Our hope for you at the But Jesus Drank Wine pod is that you’ll walk away from these conversations feeling a little lighter, a little more curious and a whole lot more HOPE for finding freedom from alcohol–or whatever it is that is keeping you stuck in your B- life. Because Sister, YOU were created by our loving Father for so much more!    We can do hard things infinitely longer as long as we don’t go it alone! Head over to www.butjesusdrankwine.com to get all the details on how to connect with Meade and Christy and others. Subscribe to the mailing list, join the BJDW community and holler over on Instagram.    #getconnected #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #sobriety #alcoholfree #soberliving #alcoholfreelife #thisnakedmind  #lovelifesober #imnotsoberimfree #getconnected  #grayareadrinking #grayareadrinking #butjesusdrankwine #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #christianandsober #christianity   The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show.   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

We had a beautiful chat with Christy Boulware, founder of Fearless Unite and author of Nervous Breakthrough, Finding Freedom from Fear and Anxiety in a World that Feeds it and we’re so excited to share it with you today. Hear how Christy’s painful and beautiful story has become her purpose and how she uses it to help others.    How did she go from being a superwoman to staring at guns on her bedroom floor? How did a nervous breakdown lead to a breakthrough and what are the “aftershocks” of going through such a thing? What are “smoke alarms” and how do we recognize them? Why is the presence of fear not a sign of weak faith?    Listen in as we talk about why exhaustion and hurry aren’t badges of honor despite our culture’s stories that say otherwise. And walk away with practical and spiritual strategies and tools for overcoming fear and anxiety. We were incredibly blessed by this conversation with our sister and friend, Christy, and we believe you’ll be blessed by it too!   To learn more about Christy and the work she does you can connect with her here and on instagram. Christy’s book Nervous Breakthrough is available now for pre-order and be sure to snag your free copy of the bonus chapter!      Connect with Meade and Christy HERE. Learn More about Coaching with Christy  Learn More about Coaching with Meade Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy   Thank you for listening! xx   Our hope for you at the But Jesus Drank Wine pod is that you’ll walk away from these conversations feeling a little lighter, a little more curious, and a whole lot more HOPE for finding freedom from alcohol–or whatever it is that is keeping you stuck in your B- life. Because Sister, YOU were created by our loving Father for so much more!    We can do hard things infinitely longer as long as we don’t go it alone! Head over to www.butjesusdrankwine.com to get all the details on how to connect with Meade and Christy and others. Subscribe to the mailing list, join the BJDW community, and holler over on Instagram.    #getconnected #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #sobriety #alcoholfree #soberliving #alcoholfreelife #thisnakedmind  #lovelifesober #imnotsoberimfree #getconnected  #grayareadrinking #grayareadrinking #butjesusdrankwine #staycurious #changeyourthinkingchangeyourdrinking #christianandsober #christianity   The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show.   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.