Are You Helping or Enabling?

May 27, 2025
00:00 27:01
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I know you have good intentions, but want to know if you are helping or enabling? This episode will help you to discover if you are indeed an enabler: what it really means, the signs you might be an enabler, and the dangers of mistaking enabling for grace (especially within Christian circles and families). I share about my strength in setting boundaries, shaped by the experiences I witnessed growing up, and share practical advice for those who recognize enabling patterns in their marriage, parenting, and relationships.

๐Ÿ”Ž What you’ll learn:

  • What enabling REALLY is (and why it’s not the same as grace!)
  • The difference between peacemaking and “peace-faking” โœŒ๏ธ
  • How enabling shows up in families, churches, relationships & even parenting
  • Why true grace is about EMPOWERMENT, not making excuses ๐Ÿ’ช
  • 4 main reasons we enable (and how to break free!)

๐Ÿ‘‰ Mentioned resources: As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.

Lysa TerKeurst’s Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: https://amzn.to/43V94wj

Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life: by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend: https://amzn.to/3HaQNTQ

A Church Called Tov by Scot McKnight: https://amzn.to/3SoOAqm

“Peacemaking or Peacefaking?” Rebuilding Us Podcast episode: Listen here.

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Meet Your Host
Dana Che is the founder of Thrive Relationships, where she serves as a marriage and relationship coach and host of the Rebuilding Us marriage podcast. She also serves as a preaching pastor at her church. Whether in the church or on her podcast, Dana's mission is singular: to help people rebuild their relationships through the grace and guidance of the Lord.

On Rebuilding Us, she is known for her graceful candor, humor, and her encouraging yet challenging advice. Dana holds a B.A. in communication from Regent University. She has a fierce passion for fashion and a fiercer passion for truth. She shares her life with Shaun, her loving husband of over twenty-five years, their four amazing children, and their โ€œmulti-culturalโ€ dog in beautiful Virginia Beach, VA.

Connect with Dana:
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Website: danache.com
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