Are You Helping or Enabling?
I know you have good intentions, but want to know if you are helping or enabling? This episode will help you to discover if you are indeed an enabler: what it really means, the signs you might be an enabler, and the dangers of mistaking enabling for grace (especially within Christian circles and families). I share about my strength in setting boundaries, shaped by the experiences I witnessed growing up, and share practical advice for those who recognize enabling patterns in their marriage, parenting, and relationships.
๐ What you’ll learn:
- What enabling REALLY is (and why it’s not the same as grace!)
- The difference between peacemaking and “peace-faking” โ๏ธ
- How enabling shows up in families, churches, relationships & even parenting
- Why true grace is about EMPOWERMENT, not making excuses ๐ช
- 4 main reasons we enable (and how to break free!)
๐ Mentioned resources: As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.
Lysa TerKeurst’s Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: https://amzn.to/43V94wj
Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life: by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend: https://amzn.to/3HaQNTQ
A Church Called Tov by Scot McKnight: https://amzn.to/3SoOAqm
“Peacemaking or Peacefaking?” Rebuilding Us Podcast episode: Listen here.
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On Rebuilding Us, she is known for her graceful candor, humor, and her encouraging yet challenging advice. Dana holds a B.A. in communication from Regent University. She has a fierce passion for fashion and a fiercer passion for truth. She shares her life with Shaun, her loving husband of over twenty-five years, their four amazing children, and their โmulti-culturalโ dog in beautiful Virginia Beach, VA.
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