Are You Helping or Enabling?

May 27, 2025
00:00 27:01
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I know you have good intentions, but want to know if you are helping or enabling? This episode will help you to discover if you are indeed an enabler: what it really means, the signs you might be an enabler, and the dangers of mistaking enabling for grace (especially within Christian circles and families). I share about my strength in setting boundaries, shaped by the experiences I witnessed growing up, and share practical advice for those who recognize enabling patterns in their marriage, parenting, and relationships.

🔎 What you’ll learn:

  • What enabling REALLY is (and why it’s not the same as grace!)
  • The difference between peacemaking and “peace-faking” ✌️
  • How enabling shows up in families, churches, relationships & even parenting
  • Why true grace is about EMPOWERMENT, not making excuses 💪
  • 4 main reasons we enable (and how to break free!)

👉 Mentioned resources: As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.

Lysa TerKeurst’s Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: https://amzn.to/43V94wj

Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life: by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend: https://amzn.to/3HaQNTQ

A Church Called Tov by Scot McKnight: https://amzn.to/3SoOAqm

“Peacemaking or Peacefaking?” Rebuilding Us Podcast episode: Listen here.

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Meet Your Host
Dana Che is a speaker, marriage coach, and the host of the Rebuilding US podcast, where she helps people uncomplicate relationships and build deeper connections. She also serves as a Teaching Pastor at a multi-site, multi-ethnic church in Virginia Beach, VA. Dana is known for her graceful candor, humor, and encouraging commitment to the truth.

Dana holds a B.A. in communication from Regent University and is a seminary student at Fuller Theological Seminary. She has a fierce passion for fashion and loves all things beachy. She shares her life with Shaun, her childhood sweetheart and husband of twenty-seven years and their four amazing children in beautiful Virginia Beach, VA.

Connect with Dana:
Instagram: @mrsdanache
Website: danache.com
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