Team Us
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Team Us

Ted and Ashleigh Slater
The best marriages have a teamwork mentality. Spouses serve each other, support each other, and celebrate each other. They tackle life together, and when one slips, the other gives grace. Husbands and wives can be vulnerable with each other because they know they rise and fall as one.

Do you want a marriage like this? On each episode of the Team Us Podcast, married couple Ted and Ashleigh Slater come alongside you and your spouse as friends and mentors. They talk openly, honestly, and humorously about the betters and the worsts of their marriage, sharing how grace, commitment, cooperation, and lots of laughter have kept them united over the years.

Whether you’re newly married and desire to build a strong foundation, or you’ve been married longer and your relationship needs a little TLC, you’ll gain practical, realistic ideas for strengthening your Team Us.
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How to Make Couple Friends
July 16, 2024 - 27 min
Do you and your spouse have couple friends? In this episode, we discuss why making them can sometimes be challenging, offer you some practical tips on how to find and connect with other married couples, and share three types of couple friends we all need. Listen to the EpisodeTake the "Us Time" Challenge Think about your couple friends. Do you have some? If so, schedule a time to go on a double date or hang out. If you don’t, come up with a strategy for making some. Team Us Resources Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage FREE Team Us Study Guide Links Mentioned in This Episode "Couple Devotional: Community" by Laird Crump at Focus on the Family "How to Make (New) Couple Friends" at Prepare and Enrich Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
4 Truths About Marriage Every Couple Needs to Remember
July 9, 2024 - 24 min
No matter how long you’ve been married, reminding yourself of fundamental marriage truths is helpful. In this episode, we’ll share four truths about marriage every couple needs to remember. 4 Truths About Marriage Every Couple Needs to Remember When marriage gets hard, it’s normal to wonder if you’ve made a mistake — but it doesn’t mean you have. Conflict is useful, but learning how to do it well takes practice. Your spouse will change, but sometimes that change is unpredictable. You need to “leave and cleave,” but it’s easier said than done. Us Time Challenge Talk about which of these truths you needed to be reminded of most. Ask yourselves: How can we live it out in our marriage this week? Team Us Resources Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage FREE Team Us Study Guide  Links Mentioned in This Episode “6 Truths About Marriage Every Engaged Couple Needs to Hear” by Ashleigh Slater at Boundless.org “Did I Marry the Wrong Person” by Glenn Lutjens at FocusontheFamily.com “Want a Great Marriage Someday? Learn to handle conflict now” by Suzanne Hadley Gosselin at Boundless.org Reset: Powerful Habits to Own Your Thoughts, Understand Your Feelings, and Change Your Life by Debra Fileta   The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages: The Little Things That Make a Big Difference by Shaunti Feldhahn Connect with Ted and Ashleigh Website Instagram Facebook Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
How to Be a Couple of Influence
July 2, 2024 - 25 min
Did you know that you and your spouse are a couple of influence? It’s true! Even if you don’t have a platform, television show, or a large online following, you are daily influencing — for better or for worse — how those around you think about marriage. Today, we share three ways you can use your influence for good. 3 Ways to Be Positive Influencers Be real Choose grace Laugh together Us Time Challenge Think about a couple you know who influences you to see marriage in a positive light. What is it about what they do, say, and live that makes you view marriage well? How can you practice some of the same things in your relationship? Team Us Resources Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage FREE Team Us Study Guide  Links Mentioned in This Episode Ted’s master’s thesis on laughter  Connect with Ted and Ashleigh Website  Instagram  Facebook Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Why We Go to Bed Mad
June 25, 2024 - 22 min
Within the Christian community, “Do not let the sun go down on your anger” is often quoted as a hard-and-fast rule for married couples to follow whenever they experience conflict. But sometimes Ted and I do go to bed mad—and surprisingly, it’s been good for our marriage. In today’s episode, we’ll tell you why. 3 Reasons We Go to Bed Mad We don’t want to sweep any issues under the rug. We need a break before addressing conflict. We want genuine apologies and real reconciliation. Us Time Challenge Think of another hard-and-fast rule couples are often told. Do you practice it in your marriage? How has it been helpful? If not, what do you do instead and why? Team Us Resources Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage FREE Team Us Study Guide   Links Mentioned in This Episode Commentary on Ephesians 4:26 at BibleRef.com  “The Benefits of Slumber” at NIH News in Health The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages by Shaunti Feldhahn Connect with Ted and Ashleigh Website Instagram Facebook Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
How to Respond When Your Spouse Loads the Dishwasher Wrong
June 18, 2024 - 21 min
Do you and your spouse approach daily tasks or responsibilities differently? Maybe it’s how you load the dishwasher, fold laundry, or even where you cut your toenails. As couples, sometimes, it’s easy for us to assume our way is the right way and seek to change each other. In this episode, we discuss how to work through the annoyance and loss of control you may feel when your spouse’s way of doing things differs from yours.  2 Practical Ways to Honor God with Your Responses Let go of your need to control. Stop and thank God for your spouse. Us Time Challenge Think of a task or responsibility your spouse tackles very differently from you. What can you appreciate from the way they approach it? What’s one way you can express that appreciation to them? Team Us Resources Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/) FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/) Links Mentioned in This Episode “I Do Things Differently Than My Wife. And That’s OK.” by Clint Edwards at The New York Times “The Benefits of Losing Control in Your Marriage” by LeRoy and Kimberly Wagner at FocusontheFamily.com Connect with Ted and Ashleigh Website (https://ashleighslater.com/)  Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/)  Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
How to Have a Front-Seat Marriage with James and Arlene Pellicane
June 11, 2024 - 23 min
Has your marriage taken a backseat to your parenting? Today, we have author and speaker Arlene Pellicane and her husband James on the podcast. They share practical tips on how your marriage can take a front seat! Us Time Challenge Connect daily this week by taking walks around the block. More from James and Arlene Pellicane Visit Arlene Pellicane’s website (https://arlenepellicane.com/) 31 Days to a Happy Husband by Arlene Pellicane (https://amzn.to/3Jum9CO) 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Wife by Arlene Pellicane (https://amzn.to/3xFG92y) Parents Rising by Arlene Pellicane (https://amzn.to/4b1nqgo) The Happy Home Podcast with Arlene Pellicane (https://www.accessmore.com/pd/https/arlenepellicanecom/podcasts/) Follow Arlene on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ArlenePellicaneAuthor) and Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/arlenepellicane/)  Team Us Resources Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/) FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/) Connect with Ted and Ashleigh Website (https://ashleighslater.com/) Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/) Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
The Best Marriage Advice We Ever Received
June 4, 2024 - 22 min
When you got married, you probably received a lot of advice. I know we did! Well, today, we’re talking about the best marriage advice we’ve ever received. We’ll also share with you some favorite words of wisdom our friends were given. Us Time Challenge Talk with your spouse about the best marriage advice you received. Ask yourselves if you are regularly putting it into practice. Team Us Resources Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/) FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/)   Connect with Ted and Ashleigh Website (https://ashleighslater.com/)  Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/) Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Navigating Sickness as a Team with Jon and Brett Seidl
May 28, 2024 - 25 min
Did you recite traditional vows at your wedding? We did! One thing we promised was, “in sickness and in health.” But what does it look like to walk together as a team through sickness? Best-selling author Jon Seidl and his wife Brett—who is an award-winning interior designer—join us to talk about how they have been navigating debilitating health issues. It’s Part 2 of our interview with them.  Us Time Challenge When we’re going through hard stuff, there is a lot of opportunity for conflict, misunderstandings, and hurting one another. Talk about what forgiveness looks like in these situations.  More from Jon and Brett Seidl Finding Rest: A Survivor’s Guide to Navigating the Valleys of Anxiety, Faith, and Life by Jonathon M. Seidl (https://amzn.to/3xMAKHd)  Dear Jon with Jonathon M. Seidl (https://jonseidl.substack.com/) Lewis and Rose Interiors YouTube channel with Brett Seidl (https://www.youtube.com/@lewisandrose)  Follow Jon on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/jonathonmseidl) and Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/jonseidl/)   Follow Lewis and Rose Interiors on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/lewisandroseinteriors) and Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/lewisandroseinteriordesign/)  Team Us Resources Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/) FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/)   Connect with Ted and Ashleigh Website (https://ashleighslater.com/)  Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/)  Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor)  Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Navigating Mental Health as a Team with Jon and Brett Seidl
May 21, 2024 - 27 min
Has your marriage been impacted by mental health issues? If so, today’s episode is for you. Best-selling author Jon Seidl and his wife Brett—who is an award-winning interior designer—join us to talk about how they’ve navigated the valleys of anxiety and OCD as a team. It’s Part 1 of two episodes with them. Jon and Brett are open, vulnerable, and wise. You don’t want to miss this interview!  Us Time Challenge Take time to do a weekly check-in with your spouse. Ask if they are feeling any stress or anxiety, and pray together about it. More from Jon and Brett Seidl Finding Rest: A Survivor’s Guide to Navigating the Valleys of Anxiety, Faith, and Life by Jonathon M. Seidl (https://amzn.to/3xMAKHd)  Dear Jon with Jonathon M. Seidl (https://jonseidl.substack.com/) Lewis and Rose Interiors YouTube channel with Brett Seidl (https://www.youtube.com/@lewisandrose)  Follow Jon on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/jonathonmseidl) and Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/jonseidl/)   Follow Lewis and Rose Interiors on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/lewisandroseinteriors) and Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/lewisandroseinteriordesign/)  Team Us Resources Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/) FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/)   Connect with Ted and Ashleigh Website (https://ashleighslater.com/)  Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/)  Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor)    Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Why Staying a Team Takes Time... and Is Worth the Investment
May 14, 2024 - 26 min
Sometimes, we forget in marriage that staying a team takes time. As a result, we can find ourselves slowly drifting away from one another. However, research shows that couples who spend time together regularly and consistently are happier and have a better relationship. Listen in as we discuss why staying a team takes time … and is worth the investment. 3 Ways to Invest Time into Your Relationship Schedule time together. Just say “no.” Be fully present. Us Time Challenge Pull out the calendar and schedule a date this week. It doesn’t have to be super special, extra romantic, or even well-planned. Go on an evening walk, do your Costco shopping together, or maybe visit a local food truck.  Team Us Resources Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/) FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/)   Links Mentioned in This Episode “Why Are Divorces Over Forty Becoming More Common?” Harris Family Law Group (https://bestlafamilylawyers.com/why-are-divorces-over-40-becoming-more-common/) The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages: The Little Things That Make a Big Difference by Shaunti Feldhahn (https://amzn.to/3Q5zDbT) “This Is How Often Married Couples Should Plan Date Nights” by Lily Blomquist at Brides.com (https://www.brides.com/married-couples-date-night-frequency-6823194)  “Giving Up Good Things for the Best Things in Marriage” by Selena Frederick at Focus on the Family (https://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/giving-up-good-things-for-the-best-things-in-marriage/)  Connect with Ted and Ashleigh Website (https://ashleighslater.com/)  Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/)  Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor)  Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
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Meet Your Host
Meet Your Host
Ted and Ashleigh first met in Chesapeake, Virginia in 2001. In December 2002, they said, “I do, of course!” Since then, they’ve lived in five more states and celebrated the births of four daughters. Both have master’s degrees in Communication from Regent University, and over the years they’ve served as premarital mentors for engaged couples.

Ted’s a website developer, and Ashleigh is the author of the books Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment and Cooperation in Marriageand Braving Sorrow Together: The Transformative Power of Faith and Community When Life Is Hard.

Ashleigh has also written for publications including iBelieve.com, Focus on the Family Magazine, Boundless.org, and HuffPost.

Learn more at AshleighSlater.com.
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