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How Your Individual Differences Can Help You Grow Together

May 18, 2021
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After we got married, we were surprised by how differently we celebrated holidays and birthdays. One of us loved to go big, while the other preferred to treat them like any other day. But, as we’ve slowly learned over the years, differences like that don’t have to divide us. When we approach them with the right attitude, they can unite us.

As a couple, our differences can serve as a great reminder that we need teamwork. We need unity, cooperation, and commitment. And, as we band together for the common good of our relationship, instead of focusing on the places where we feel disappointed or our likes rejected, it becomes easier for us to appreciate, and not despise, the other’s uniqueness.

What are some practical ways you can do this in your marriage? Listen in as we share three things we do so that our differences help us grow together and not apart.

3 Ways to Grow Together and Not Apart
1. Build on common interests
2. Don’t force change
3. Learn to stretch by trying new things

Us Time Challenge
Go on a date. You can either pick your favorite common interest that you share, or one of you can decide to try something the other enjoys. Plan this week’s date around it.

Team Us Resources:
Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage
FREE Team Us Study Guide

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Ted and Ashleigh first met in Chesapeake, Virginia in 2001. In December 2002, they said, “I do, of course!” Since then, they’ve lived in five more states and celebrated the births of four daughters. Both have master’s degrees in Communication from Regent University, and over the years they’ve served as premarital mentors for engaged couples.

Ted’s a website developer, and Ashleigh is the author of the books Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment and Cooperation in Marriageand Braving Sorrow Together: The Transformative Power of Faith and Community When Life Is Hard.

Ashleigh has also written for publications including, Focus on the Family Magazine,, and HuffPost.

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