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Why Love Isn’t Enough to Keep You Together

November 22, 2022
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Many couples believe that the intense romantic love that brings them together will keep them together long-term. And, while it’s true that these in-love emotions are exhilarating and worth savoring, you need more than feelings for your marriage to go the distance. It has to be based on more.

Listen in as we talk about marital culture shock and how obligation isn’t a dirty word. We share how it’s a true-to-our-promise commitment that serves as the best foundation for a healthy marriage and give you three things to remember when you don’t feel “in love.”

The 4 Stages of Marital Culture Shock

1. The Honeymoon Stage
2. The Frustration Stage
3. The Adjustment Stage
4. The Acceptance Stage

3 Things to Remember When You Don’t “Feel” In-Love

1. You won’t break if you bend.
2. Compatible couples have conflict.
3. Bad habits take time to break.

Us Time Challenge

Figure out an area you can bend in this week. Don’t share it with your spouse. Instead, put it into practice and see if your spouse notices.

Team Us Resources

• Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (
• FREE Team Us Study Guide (

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Ted and Ashleigh first met in Chesapeake, Virginia in 2001. In December 2002, they said, “I do, of course!” Since then, they’ve lived in five more states and celebrated the births of four daughters. Both have master’s degrees in Communication from Regent University, and over the years they’ve served as premarital mentors for engaged couples.

Ted’s a website developer, and Ashleigh is the author of the books Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment and Cooperation in Marriageand Braving Sorrow Together: The Transformative Power of Faith and Community When Life Is Hard.

Ashleigh has also written for publications including, Focus on the Family Magazine,, and HuffPost.

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