The Happy Home Podcast with Arlene Pellicane

If exposed regularly to AI, how will kids tell the difference between the real world and what is artificial?A tech reset is needed - moving from a screen-based childhood to a play-based childhood. Going into nature instead of sitting on a couch. Author Eryn Lynum knows a lot about the benefits of being in God's creation. She's the host of the Nat Theo podcast, but even her family needed to reestablish limits. She read Arlene's new book, The Great Tech Reset, during a three-week road trip. Lynum describes the family meeting that followed, how her four kids responded, and how nature became the replacement for screen time rather than just a restriction. We'll talk about AI, rest, and Eryn's experience with Addison's disease. Eryn has two new books to help your children embrace the wild outdoors and God's creation: a children's book Where Wonder Leads and the family devotional Made to Marvel. 02:36 – Why the Lynum family needed a tech reset 05:11 – How her four kids reacted to new tech limits 08:16 – Replacing tech with nature instead of just restricting it 10:29 – Nature vs. AI: teaching kids what's real 13:45 – How to start engaging with nature as a family (even in a condo) 20:21 – What "wonder" means in Where Wonder Leads 23:15 – Living with Addison's disease and why rest matters 29:40 – Made to Marvel: the new 52-week family devotional Find out more about Eryn Lynum's ministry and her new books, Where Wonder Leads and the family devotional Made to Marvel, at https://nattheo.com/ Get Arlene's new book The Great Tech Reset: Reclaiming Real Life for Christian Families for FREE while supplies last from Summit Ministries. More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Watch the podcast on Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Arlene's children were not allowed to have social media, play video games, or have personal phones or tablets until their senior year of high school. What did the kids think about this??? Noelle (the middle child of three) is here to represent the kids! Was she left out of friend groups at school because she wasn't on social media? Did she struggle with anxiety as a result? Noelle addresses common concerns parents raise, including whether kids need phones to stay connected with friends, whether delaying phone access affects academic performance, and whether it leaves children unprepared once they leave home. She describes how her parents explained their reasoning rather than simply withholding technology, and how that shaped the boundaries she set for herself once she did get a phone. Noelle also discusses her current use of AI as an engineering student at Oral Roberts University, and how her faith shapes how she spends her time. Arlene's new book, The Great Tech Reset: Reclaiming Real Life for Christian Families is available for FREE while supplies last. Request your copy at TechResetBook.com and begin your do-over with screen time. 02:19 — Noelle introduces herself: senior year at Oral Roberts University, mechanical engineering 03:15 — What she actually did as a kid without video games, tablets, or cable 05:21 — Addressing the myth that kids need phones to stay connected with friends 09:05 — The "time pit" and what she avoided seeing online — comparison, body image, bad news 12:33 — Phone use in the classroom and its effect on attention span 16:04 — Why she didn't "go crazy" once she finally got a phone senior year 18:11 — Her deliberate process for delaying social media after getting a phone 22:47 — How going without a phone gave her more freedom, not less 29:19 — Balancing being a "tech optimist" and AI enthusiast with caution about addictive technology More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: Get Arlene's new book, The Great Tech Reset: Reclaiming Real Life for Christian Families (free while supplies last!) Check out Noelle's art on Instagram SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's other BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Watch the podcast on Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Technology promises to make life better, boost productivity, connect us, and help us learn. But what does it do to childhood? Where is the evidence that a screen-based childhood is best for kids? We all know that sitting still, staring at screens, watching who-knows-what is not good for healthy child development. And it's time for parents to rebel against this tsunami of technology. Arlene shares the story behind her new book, The Great Tech Reset: Reclaiming Real Life for Christian Families published with Summit Ministries (release date September 29). The most unusual thing about the book? For a limited time, it's free! Just request your copy at techresetbook.com Arlene will walk you through statistics on rising teen depression, anxiety, and declining literacy tied to screen use, then explain how her family avoided phones, social media, and video games through most of her kids' childhood. She addresses three common parenting fears — that kids need social media to make friends, that limiting tech will make kids hate their parents, and that it's too late to change course — and offers practical steps towards healthier tech use. Plus, she addresses the spiritual ramifications of too much tech. What if our kids feared God more than they feared losing followers? 00:01 – A heart-to-heart about phones and tablets in the home 00:59 – Announcing The Great Tech Reset, a free print book, order at techresetbook.com 02:02 – The statistics: rising teen depression, anxiety, and declining literacy tied to screens 03:53 – How the book came about: stepping back from the Parents Rising Conference to write with Summit Ministries 08:49 – Lie #1: Kids need social media to make friends 12:41 – Lie #2: Limiting tech will make your kids hate you 18:59 – Lie #3: It's too late to change course 24:42 – A pop quiz for listeners: do you reach for your phone to relax? 27:15 – Closing scripture from Luke 12 and prayer for families Order Arlene Pellicane's new book, The Great Tech Reset, now! TechResetBook.com More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Watch the podcast on Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

The pressure to be endlessly happy is leaving the next generation more anxious and isolated than ever. In his new book, The Happiness Crisis: How Adversity Can Build a Resilient and Joyful Next Generation, Dr. Jonathan Eckert calls for a culture shift that we can begin at home. How do we embrace adversity and see the value of challenges, instead of becoming parents who make everything too easy? Dr. Eckert explains the biblical connection between joy and struggle, and why removing adversity — "snowplow parenting" — prevents kids from developing resilience. Arlene and Jon work through real-life scenarios, including a child facing bullying and a teen caught using AI to cheat on a school assignment. The conversation closes with practical steps for helping kids rediscover purpose and joy through community and faith. Dr. Jonathan Eckert is a former middle school teacher and basketball coach who worked in the Bush and Obama Department of Education. He has a PhD from Vanderbilt, and currently serves as the Executive Director of the Baylor Center for School Leadership. 02:35 Why the pursuit of happiness backfires 03:29 How phones and comparison fuel kids' unhappiness 04:57 Snowplow parents vs. building "muscles around the backbone" 09:15 Roleplay: what to say when a kid is bullied at school 14:40 Roleplay: when a teen gets caught using AI to cheat 21:18 My teacher story: destructive vs. productive struggle 28:17 The "man in the arena" quote and the ABCs of joy Connect with Dr. Jonathan Eckert at jonathaneckert.org or on Linkedin. Grab a copy of Dr. Eckert's book The Happiness Crisis. More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Watch the podcast on Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Do your parents offer too much parenting advice? Too little? Lori Wildenberg, author of Grandparents Make Grand Partners, joins Arlene to talk about grandparent and adult-child relationships. They cover how to invite an under-involved grandparent to do more, and how to address a grandparent who offers too much unsolicited advice. Lori shares how she and her husband stay close to their adult daughter despite differing views, and how families can keep connected across distance. You'll also get to hear ideas for handling screen-time disagreements and passing down family faith stories. 02:58 — Why today's grandparents differ from earlier generations 05:10 — How to reach an uninvolved grandparent 10:30 — Story: asking a grandparent to "tone it down" 13:08 — Why unsolicited advice feels like criticism 16:08 — Loving an adult child through disagreement 24:03 — Staying connected with grandkids who live far away 26:49 — Navigating different screen-time philosophies 31:53 — The power of grandparents and passing down faith stories Connect with Lori Wildenberg on her website Grab Lori Wildenberg's book, Grandparents Make Grand Partners Follow Lori on Instagram Follow Lori on Facebook More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Watch the podcast on Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Sleep can sometimes feel unproductive, but believe it or not, sleep is valuable in more ways than we realize! Sure there are many physical benefits, but there are also important spiritual benefits. Brett McCracken, author of The Wisdom of Sleep: How Rest Reveals God's Truth and Revives Weary Souls, joins Arlene to explore why God designed humans to need sleep at all. They discuss sleep as a gift of grace that can't be earned, the vulnerability of nighttime and what it teaches about dependence on God, and practical tips for helping both adults and children sleep better. The conversation also turns to how screens have replaced older nighttime dangers, and how sleep itself pushes back against an AI-driven culture that prizes constant productivity. Brett shares personal reflections as a father of four on choosing rest over an ever-growing to-do list. 03:53 — The central question: why did God design humans to need sleep? 05:52 — Sleep as an ungratefully-received gift of grace 06:38 — Nighttime vulnerability and learning to trust God's protection 10:03 — Practical sleep tips for adults and kids 15:27 — Phones and screens as the new "danger of the night" 18:23 — John Piper's quote on sleep as a corrective to pride 26:21 — AI, human limitation, and what sleep reveals about being human Get a copy of Brett McCracken's book, The Wisdom of Sleep, on Amazon and everywhere books are sold. Connect with Brett at https://www.brettmccracken.com/ More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Watch the podcast on Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Do you ever wonder, Will my kids turn out okay? Am I messing them up? Get ready to be encouraged and empowered by today's conversation with mom, nana, and bestselling author of 60+ books Pam Farrel. You're going to learn how to be a proactive, unworried, confident parent as we head into a new school year. Pam explains the Learner-Leader framework she and her husband Bill developed to raise their three sons, including gift-giving traditions, age-specific contracts, and decision-making exercises. Pam shares two memorable stories from her own family: Brock's prayer on the 50-yard line after a huge football loss, and Zach's turnaround after he punched through a wall at age eight. The conversation covers how to start being proactive with a teenager, the role of prayer in parenting, and more. 03:00 – Proactive vs. passive parenting: the key difference 04:34 – The Learner-Leader Day tradition 08:14 – Where "Learner, Leader, Lover of God" came from: Pam's prayer over newborn Brock 13:02 – One step for parents who haven't been proactive with a teen 16:51 – The movie night story: letting Zach make (and own) the call 28:00 – The 50-yard line: Brock's prayer after a 48-0 loss 31:16 – Zach's rock-bottom moment and the "treasure map" turnaround Connect and find out more about Pam Farrel at love-wise.com Find the parenting resources mentioned on the podcast here: https://www.love-wise.com/parenting/ Get Pam & Bill Farrel's book, The 10 Best Decisions Every Parent Can Make here. More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Watch the podcast on Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Sometimes God's presence and glory seems separated from everyday life, but what if daily grace can be experienced in the mundane? In this episode, Arlene talks with beloved author and artist Ruth Chou Simons about her new book, This Moment Matters: 100 Ways to Cultivate a Grace-Laced Life. Ruth shares how raising six boys reshaped her expectations of motherhood, and how she turns ordinary tasks — cooking, closets, evening routines — into moments of discipleship. They discuss scripture memory that adapts to different seasons of life, stewarding a home without chasing perfection, and the practice of looking your children in the eye instead of calling out instructions across the room. The conversation offers practical ways to notice God's presence in daily, unremarkable moments. 01:43 – Raising six boys and letting go of the story she expected 04:12 – Turning kitchen prep time into discipleship moments 07:11 – Teaching multiple kids at once without needing to be perfect 09:58 – Scripture memory that fits your actual season, not a perfect system 12:32 – Stewarding your home as a haven, not a showcase 16:37 – Simplifying your closet and choosing a signature accessory 20:41 – Why looking your kids in the eye changes everything Connect with Ruth Chou Simons on her website Shop Ruth Chou Simons' art and more at GraceLaced Follow Ruth Chou Simons on Instagram Learn more about Ruth's new book, This Moment Matters: 100 Ways to Cultivate a Grace-Laced Life More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Watch the podcast on Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

What heroes do your kids look up to? Boys and girls need better examples than secular YouTube celebrities and pop music stars. They need real heroes that will inspire courage, truth, charity, and perseverance. The popularity of the Odyssey shows us how we long for moral heroes. The ultimate place to find heroes is in the Bible. How can we help Biblical heroes come alive for boys and girls? New York Times bestselling author Joshua Cooley joins Arlene to unpack his Heroes of the Bible devotionals. You'll hear why figures like Gideon prove that God works through weakness rather than natural strength, and get practical ideas for building a family Bible-reading rhythm, managing kids' phone use, and helping young athletes root their identity in Christ instead of their sport. Joshua serves at the editor of the Fellowship of Christian Athletes magazine. If your kid has ever faced disappointment on a team, Josh also offers a Bible-based way to talk them through it. He also shares the story behind the football memoir he co-authored with Super Bowl MVP Nick Foles. 03:56 – Why boys need heroes right now 05:36 – Gideon: hiding in a ditch and becoming a "mighty man of valor" 07:27 – Inside the Heroes of the Bible devotional format 14:06 – Building a family Bible-reading rhythm that actually sticks 20:00 – What worries Josh about kids and phone use today 21:58 – Sports, identity, and glorifying God through athletics 27:27 – Helping a kid handle not making the team Find out more about Joshua Cooley and his books on his website. More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Watch the podcast on Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Why does God allow us to suffer? Glenna Marshall spent six years chasing a diagnosis and sixteen years living with a painful autoimmune disease before writing Praying in Pain. In this conversation, she explores this question and walks us through what God has taught her through it all. Glenna talks through the four-part pattern of the biblical lament psalms — cry out, remember, resolve — and how they became her lifeline during sleepless nights of suffering. Glenna opens up about the pride that kept her silent from her church, the tension chronic illness can create in a marriage, and what she's learned about complaining honestly to God instead of everyone else. Listen in for a hard-won perspective on healing, hope, and raising children who've watched a parent suffer well. 02:04 – Glenna describes the onset of her mystery illness at age 29 09:30 – The four-part pattern of lament psalms: cry out, remember, resolve 13:37 – "You don't have to stop complaining — you just have to complain differently" 16:12 – The story of snapping at a friend who complained about a sore back 20:16 – Hiding her flare-up from her church during a leaf-raking outreach 22:36 – The three ways Glenna believes God heals 27:03 – Navigating marriage when one spouse is in chronic pain and the other isn't 31:59 – Glenna's closing word to anyone suffering in isolation Check out Glenna Marshall's blog: https://www.glennamarshall.com/ More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Watch the podcast on Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.